If you didn't receive the COBRA paperwork within 30 days, you need to report the company. They are required by law to give you COBRA information within 30 days of a qualifying event (in this case, being laid off), either in person or first class mail. For every day of noncompliance, they are taxed a penalty of $100. For more than one beneficiary (in this case, there would be), it's up to $200 per day per family. They can be as high as $2500 for EACH beneficiary.
Here is some more information about COBRA: http://www.dol.gov/ebsa/faqs/faq_consumer_cobra.HTML
Make sure you are eligible for COBRA, then call a lawyer. If you can't afford one, Jennifer Jaff is a lawyer who advocates for patients with chronic illnesses for free: http://www.advocacyforpatients.org She went to bat for me when my insurance company tried to kick me off COBRA two years early without any explanation.
Talk to the company's HR or benefits go-to person. It could be an innocent mistake, but it is still a violation of the law.
I hope you get things straightened out.
Diagnosed with Crohn's in 2008 at the age of 22.
Currently on: Remicade, Imuran, Pentasa, Zofran, Tramadol, Welchol, Phenergan, Ambien, Metoclopramide, Omeprazole, Hyoscyamine