Dad passed away..

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   Posted 3/30/2010 2:28 PM (GMT -7)   
I have been away a lot over the last few months spending as much time with my Dad as possible. One of the first posts I read is about the passing of pb4's mom on the same day. My heart goes our to her.
My Dad passed away Sunday morning from bone cancer. So hard to see Dad in so much pain and become a skeleton of the man he was. He fought brave and hard and never complained. Difficult when his memory was so sharp at times and yet so confused at times from all the pain medication.
He had been in the hospital since December, diagnosed last fall, and we did take him out for Christmas to spend with all his family.
Funeral arrangements were made yesterday. Now for the harder to accept part. My Dad was the most loving, forgiving man there ever was. He remarried almost five years ago and there has been so much conflict since. My brother walked out while the arrangements were being made and later I did more to show support to my brother. I did come back to support my sister. My stepmom wanted just five white roses on the casket representing the five years they had been married and the word Husband.  Never mind that he was a Father, Grandfather, Great-Grandfather, Stepfather, etc. and a Friend. And married to my Mom for over 50 years before her passing. I could go on an on but there is so much turmoil, family do not even want to attend but will in honor of our father.
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Was on prednisone for three months but no medication for next 11 months.
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   Posted 3/30/2010 2:41 PM (GMT -7)   
I am so sorry for your loss.
Funerals and the aftermath of death unfortunately bring out a terrible amount of unsolved conflict.
Be gentle with everyone...most especially yourself.
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   Posted 3/30/2010 2:45 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh I am so sorry to hear this!! Please take care of yourself. Prayers for peace and comfort for you and your family.
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   Posted 3/30/2010 3:02 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh, Bammer, I am so very, very sorry. It is so hard to have to cope with family turmoil on top of grief.

My heart goes out to you all.

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   Posted 3/30/2010 3:07 PM (GMT -7)   
My condolences to you and your family.
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   Posted 3/30/2010 3:36 PM (GMT -7)   
Bammer I'm so sorry to hear about your father, I know that he had been ill some sometime and I had wondered where you have been.
I wish you all the strength and power to get through these dark times. Just know that he is in a better palce now.
It is amazing how families are during times like this,but you need to think of yourself and try not to let them bother you. I know its hard.
God bless you and your family
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   Posted 3/30/2010 4:29 PM (GMT -7)   
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope the family situation gets better. Take care of yourself.
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   Posted 3/30/2010 4:36 PM (GMT -7)   
So sorry to hear about your loss and family turmoil. I hope that you can all be strong and get through this extremely difficult time.
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   Posted 3/30/2010 5:07 PM (GMT -7)   
My condolences as well.

Sorry also that your stepmom isn't thinking so much about the rest of you guys. She probably feels excluded from the rest of his family since she's only been married to him a short time.

Whatever she does doesn't change your dad being a father, grandfather, etc. He knows that and so do all of you. Try to be peaceful at this time of grieving. Maybe you can set up some kind of small memorabilia picture board or something...? If you do, be sure to include her so there won't be strife.

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   Posted 3/30/2010 5:08 PM (GMT -7)   
I am so sorry for your loss.  I am sorry you are going through a difficult time.
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   Posted 3/30/2010 5:26 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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   Posted 3/30/2010 5:27 PM (GMT -7)   
My deepest sympathy. (((hugs)))

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   Posted 3/30/2010 5:42 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm so sorry... you are in my thoughts
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   Posted 3/30/2010 6:13 PM (GMT -7)   
My condolences. I'm so very sorry for your loss. Sounds like it is beyond stressful, losing a dad is hard enough, to have to deal with family strife on top of it is just terrible. I'm so sorry. Remember that it is his life that matters, and the fact that you spent as much time as you could with him, and that he loved you and you loved him. He probably doesn't care how many roses there are at his funeral; he knows you love him. Keep that in your heart, and don't let the stress of the situation get to you. It is a rough time, and do try to take care of yourself.

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   Posted 3/30/2010 6:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself, your dad would want that.


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   Posted 3/30/2010 7:22 PM (GMT -7)   
Sorry for your loss.

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   Posted 3/30/2010 7:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh Bammer, I'm floored right now after reading your post.....I am so sorry for your loss and freaked out at the same time that we both are going through this right now, same day and everything...we are definitely connected more now than before (both of us being in Alberta) heart aches for you and your family as well and just know that you are definitely in my thoughts and I'm sending you a ((((((((((HUGE HUG)))))) SINCEREST CONDOLANCES AND THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. We will get through this.
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   Posted 3/30/2010 8:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you everyone for your wishes and kind thoughts. Your support means a lot and really does help to have another place to turn to.
I just talked to my sister for an hour on the phone and she said maybe Dad is with Mom right now and definately free from pain. I am thankful for all the time Dad and I had together these last few months to say and show how much we loved each other.
57 yr. old F dx. CD 07/07
Was on prednisone for three months but no medication for next 11 months.
Started weekly methotrexate injections 09/22/08.
Lap assisted sigmoidoscopy done May 11/2009

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   Posted 3/30/2010 9:07 PM (GMT -7)   
sorry about your dad :-(

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   Posted 3/30/2010 10:25 PM (GMT -7)   
My condolences.
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   Posted 3/31/2010 12:34 AM (GMT -7)   
My dad died 2 years ago and I (we) watched him struggle with his disease and loose so much weight, similar to your father he and we new at the end that it was the best thing for him but that never makes it easy. I too have great memories of the last few years of Dad's life that I treasure even now. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family Bammer. Rob
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   Posted 3/31/2010 4:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family,
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   Posted 3/31/2010 4:27 AM (GMT -7)   
my condolences to you and your family.
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   Posted 3/31/2010 5:00 AM (GMT -7)   
My thoughts are with you bammer, such a sad time. I hope that your family eventually pull together, last thing you need at a time like this is conflict. Thinking of you and your family.

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   Posted 3/31/2010 5:18 AM (GMT -7)   
I lost my dad 9 years ago so I understand what you are going through. My prayers are with you and your family. It will get better in time.
age 41,diagnosed with CD in 11/07, Rx Pentasa 4000mg and Remicade.

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