I've not been there either, but I have had periods when the wrong move hurt me insides.
The best I can suggest, and it's not much, is that 4 months is not a long time to heal. I hope it get's better for you in time. Keep the faith and tell your doctor about it.
In the mean time, there are many ways to make love, not all involve sex, or at least that's what I keep telling myself, being newly married and into another flare, with a fistula which is abscessing so sex is presently not on my list of things I want to do, sigh...
CD 24 years. Multiple surgeries in past 10 yrs. 4 year Illeostomy. Mesh rejection. Too close to death, twice. Large inscisional hernia. Perpetually underweight. Short bowel syndrom. Have used a variety of complementary medical therapies. Highly recommend Bowen Therapy as the best body work. Take me vites. Started Low Dose Naltrexone March 27, 2010. Got married for the only time 2008. Survive because of the love of good friends, and because I can. Happy to be alive. IBD needs more awareness and more voices willing to speak up. BE well.