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   Posted 7/12/2010 10:03 AM (GMT -7)   
hey there as i said in my intro post i kinda been kept to myself. so now im thinking about getting into the dateing world. and was going to put upan ad in match.com or eharmony.com sumthing like that. but i was wondering should i put that i have chorns in my ad?

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   Posted 7/12/2010 10:40 AM (GMT -7)   
I wouldn't because people might see it and be misinformed. I would just set myself up on it, and then if I met someone I thought was great, I would tell them about it when I felt it was right.
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   Posted 7/12/2010 11:35 AM (GMT -7)   
besides nurses and my doc its been about 7 years sincei even attempted to talk to a female

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   Posted 7/12/2010 12:17 PM (GMT -7)   
I wouldnt put that you have crohns in your profile. People are very judgemental on dating sites. (I used them for a number of years). Paint yourself in the best light, but dont lie. If you meet up with someone and you get to know them then you cant tell them about crohns then (but keep it light)
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   Posted 7/12/2010 12:30 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree with the others. Everyone (not just you), including the girls you will meet has challanges. The girls will not tell you on day one all the details about themselves, cause they want to know if there is a match. If there is, then challanges can be overcome.
Please do not be discouraged if things do not work out in the first few attempts. It may take a bit to get back in the grove, but it is worth it.
GOOD LUCK 2 U yeah

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   Posted 7/12/2010 1:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Do you have any friends that are girls that might be able to set you up with one of their friends? Or in your group of friends are there any girls you can talk to that will help get you back into the swing of things? I wouldn't put on the site that you have CD because that might turn some people away as they might not know much about it. Then if you do meet someone you can always tell them about it down the road and if they like you for you then they won't mind you have CD. As CD doesn't define who you are as a person. How old are you? Still in high school, college or? Could always join a group at school to meet new people/girls.
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   Posted 7/12/2010 1:55 PM (GMT -7)   
I have done online dating in the past and told them after a few dates but not right off the bat. It's not something the defines me and I'd rather confide in someone if I think a relationship is going somewhere.
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   Posted 7/12/2010 2:02 PM (GMT -7)   
I would agree with what everyone else has said. Crohns is not you, you are your own person.
Dating sites are a minefield. Have you got any interests/hobies that could get you meeting other people. If you have an interest you are far more likely to be able to engage someone in conversation.
Even for 'healthy' people it can take forever to find Mr/Miss right so don't be downhearted if it takes a few attempts. There is someone for everyone!
Good Luck

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   Posted 7/12/2010 2:09 PM (GMT -7)   
I vote to wait. You don't have to give her your whole life history on the first couple of dates. In fact, if I was in the dating scene I wouldn't tell any "prospects" until we'd been dating several months and I knew for sure we were getting really serious about eachother. Best of luck and hats off to you for getting back out there!

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   Posted 7/12/2010 2:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Not gonna dissent with the unanimous vote so far. People are shallow and will quickly skate past anything they perceive to be less than perfect. Ill health isn't a good sale in today's health-obsessed society. I personally wouldn't tell any prospective date that I had Crohn's until a relationship was on the cards. It's partly because I don't see the point of telling somebody I have an illness if I'm not likely to see them ever again. But it's also because I would hope that by that stage they would care enough about me not to get put off.

Good luck. Perhaps one day I will try to join the dating world...

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   Posted 7/12/2010 8:17 PM (GMT -7)   
ty for all your feedback and ill be taking your advice
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