crohn's disease and divorce

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   Posted 8/8/2010 9:34 PM (GMT -7)   

I have crohn's and my husband and I decided to get divorce,I am not sad about getting divorce but I don't know what wil happen to me and my baby after divorce,I am full time mum, I don't have any income or saving to support myself or my son,I have no family or friends to go after divorce and I am not US citizen,I try to find a job as soon as possible,but before that I don't know how to support myself and I can not live without my son,I can't leave him I must get the custody of my son but I don't know how and what's the divorce low in missouri.I am miserable. Any advice would be helpful

Post Edited (Rachel270) : 8/8/2010 10:37:04 PM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 8/8/2010 9:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Just a note to say hello, Rachel, and to welcome you to the forum.

I can't offer any practical advice because I'm Australian and am not familiar with US law, but most of our members are American and some of them should be able to offer you some really good advice.

Would you like to return to your home country with your baby, or would you prefer to stay in the US?
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   Posted 8/8/2010 10:07 PM (GMT -7)   

I prefer to return to my home country but I don't know if I can take my son with me and seprate him from his father as he wants to stay in US

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   Posted 8/9/2010 12:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Do you have free legal advice centre's there if so perhaps you could call in and ask them for advice about it, you could also ask about any benefits you and your baby may be entitled to, sorry can't be more help not in the US but wish you all the best. wink

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   Posted 8/9/2010 7:05 AM (GMT -7)   
I would try to apply for legal aide. I think as a stay at home Mom you should be eligible for it, if not you might ask the courts to have your husband pay for your legal fees. But first step is I would try to apply for legal aide and see what happens. And unfortunately no you cannot return to your home country with your son, without your ex husbands permission, I do know that. Good luck!
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   Posted 8/9/2010 3:08 PM (GMT -7)   
Are you at risk of becoming Homeless as a result of this divorce?? Definitely seek out resources in your area that help single women and children with little or no income get housing, education, a job. Salvation Army would be one to possibly connect with. If you have been possibly a victim of abuse then help can be found through Women and Children Shelters in your area.

If just in need of finding employment, check out Women's Resource agencies in your area. Check out State Services available for possible health insurance for yourself and your child (if needed).

Keeping good thoughts that all will work out for you.
Mum of an IBDer since 1999. Daughter diagnosed at age 17 with Crohns/Colitis. This disease s*cks!!

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   Posted 8/9/2010 4:03 PM (GMT -7)   
well, I don't know about agencies and resources that may help you since I'm canadian but perhaps the welfare office can help steer you in the right direction? The other thing I though of right away is isn;t it possible to still live under the same roof as your husband until you get a job and a month's worth of salary? I doubt he's want to see his own child homeless, nor the mother of his child. And, if you're the one that has to leave, he should have to give you some house equity to help you set up your own residence. And chil,d and spousal support?? Also maybe once a bit of money comes in, look for a 2 family residence so the other unit can mostly pay your mortgage. I would try to keep the expenses to a minimum bc with the crohn's you never know how often you may be on disability.
Take care!
33 years old, dx with Crohn's in 1998. Currently on :
Clofazimine 100mg daily,
Rifampin 600mg daily, and Clarithromycin 2 tabs daily
and Cipralex 10mg/day for anxiety.
Hydroxyzine, percocet, Ativan as needed.
5g pharmaceutical grade Omega 3's, 1000IU's Vitamin D3 daily
2 Perianal fistulas, and 1 more suspected. Crohn's only at end of colon, cecum. Remi, Asacol, Salofalk, Imuran, Humira did nada. Built immunity to long-term Cipro use, which also induced panic attacks.

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   Posted 8/9/2010 7:04 PM (GMT -7)   
I believe that your husband will have a responsibility for child support payments. Should he refuse to make those payments I would think that he has given up the right to prevent you from taking the child to a place where you can raise him.

Where are you from? How far would your ex have to travel to visit? Legal aid it the first place you should go. Make sure you have representation for your divorce also. This would be a good start.
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