I try to keep things 'medical.' People react much better when you say "frequent stools" instead of "lots of pooping."
I also usually stick to the group of friends I already have. Some of them know more about
the gritty details than others (this directly correlates to the amount of time we hang out) but they all know that when I say I don't feel well, I'm not just making excuses, and that I poop a lot. They are comfortable enough with it/me that they occasionally crack a joke about
it. They're usually pretty funny, too. Anyone new will usually be with at least one of the guys, so if I'm absent they can get a basic rundown. I generally don't bring it up as its own topic, except in vague "I feel like crap" comments, but if it's relevant to another discussion or someone asks about
it, I'll bring it up and/or give a basic explanation of the disease itself and some vague references to the symptoms.
Of course, this is one of those generational things. I'm 22, and the oldest of my friends is in his mid thirties, so we're of a generation that's been between old-school stuff and new-school stuff (for example, my classmates and I got to pick between the new and old SATs). Also, the internet became a big thing in our teens... and with it, Google. So we're generally pretty adaptable and
My parents's generation, on the other hand, would be horrified by some of the things I say in casual conversation with my friends. They're in their 60s, and while they themselves are exceptions (they have health issues of their own, and have lived with my Crohn's just as long as I have), some of my family members are not. So, I find it best to tailor my conversations to the audience. My friends and parents get the R rated content, my extended family and acquaintances get the PG13 content, that sort of thing. I do the same thing with swearwords.
Diagnosed with Crohn's late December 2004. Narrowly avoiding a full-blown flare using nothing but sheer awesomeness.
Post Edited (Bane) : 8/9/2010 6:31:43 PM (GMT-6)