WOW! I want to room with you! It sounds like you are trying to recreate a spa type atmosphere. I honestly have never went through that much trouble just because I would be the one who would have to maintain all this and I just don't have the energy. Any types of plants are good to clean the air. They absorb CO2 and release O2 into the air. Just make sure to keep them dusted. The water fountains are relaxing, but after a while, get on my nerves.
Aromatherapy can be tricky. Yes, certain scents can help you relax, such as lavender, but I agree with someone else who said that if you are nauseas or just not feeling well, having a scent in the air could make it worse and sometimes give me headaches. keep it light and subtle.
As for massage therapy, also another very individual thing. When having aches and pains, sometimes being massaged helps. Other times, it hurts so bad, I don't want to be touched. As someone mentioned above, heat can help alot. I was in a motorcycle accident a couple of years ago which threw me into a flare. I was going through massage therapy for about 6 months with them massaging my neck, shoulders, and lower back. When they massaged my lower back, it always seem to stimulate my bowels and I would have to get up and run to the bathroom. The also had this huge heating pad that would cover my whole back which I loved! They would put that on, cover me with a blanket and just leave me for 20 minutes. I always ended up going to sleep and they would have to wake me up when it was over.
You sound like a very concerned friend. My only caution to you is to find out what your BF likes and will help him relax. Alot of us don't like to be fussed over when we are not feeling well. Just want to be left alone. Please be sensitive to that also. If he gets snappy, don't take it personally, just leave him alone for a little while. When you are hurting, not feeling well, nauseas, the last thing some of us want is someone fussing over us. Be available if he needs anything and listen to what HE wants from you.
Dx'd w/ Crohn's in 1979 at age 13. Bad flare 2008 but no health insurance so I dealt with it. Colonoscopy in July 2009 caused a perforated colon, emergency bowel resection. 2 fistula's, perianal and perivaginal.
Humira, probiotic, a multivitamin, Glucosamine, D3, calcium, potassium, magnesium, zinc, and fish oil. I also take Tramadol 50 mg and Klonopin (for anxiety) as needed.
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