Boy, did I ever learn a good lesson about
people "not getting it" re other people's issues.
I used to get so irritated with people who were unable to control their anxiety and depression. I never experienced it, so I had no patience with those who did. I even went so far as to tell one of my friends to "grow up and get over it" when she was really suffering from depression. She tried to explain what it was like to me, and although I was interested and tried to understand, I just couldn't. She said there were no words to describe the feeling. So, I figured she (and others) were just being totally self absorbed and needed to get over themselves.
Then I became sick with Crohn's...and all the anxiety and depression that came along with it. That's when I finally got it. And she was right. There are no words to explain what depression or anxiety feels like.
I was mortified re how I treated and thought about
those who did have depression and anxiety. And once I experienced it for myself, I called my friend and apologized profusely. She was very gracious and actually helped talk me down from plenty of panic attacks.
I no longer seem to have many bouts of anxiety or depression, but I will never again underestimate somebody else's misery...whether I understand it or not.
I have some very high energy friends who don't understand my crohn's. They get irritated with me when I decline invitations to go out. For some reason I can't be around high energy people when I'm feeling low energy myself. And I'm okay with that. I feel it's my body telling me to lay low until I feel better.
I also no longer feel obligated to rise to everyone's expectations of me. I know people don't understand and I don't expect them to. But I no longer knock myself out trying to explain either.
But yes, it's very true about
people not being able to understand until they have walked a particular path or have had the same experience.