I'm amazed at the orders for bed rest and absolutely no activity!!! Especially given it was laparoscopic surgery! Good heavens, 34 years ago I had
open abdomen surgery to resect 18" of the mid-ileum and they wanted me UP and WALKING the halls of the hospital the second day after surgery. And they wanted me walking as much as I could w/o overexerting myself and getting stranded in a hallway.
Pardon me for chuckling when you say that your 3 small incisions are not symmetrical. I can't help it! My scar runs from an inch or so above my naval, around my naval to the right and back down the middle of my abdomen almost to my pubic bone. Talk about lack of symmetry!!
Yeah, its vanity. And that's something that we really have no control over to my way of thinking. I think vanity is just part of being a woman. Some of us moreso than others but nonetheless as women we all tend to be vain to one degree or another.
The driving restriction time I never did quite fathom. They didn't tell me I couldn't ride in a car, only that I couldn't drive for a specific time period (which I can't remember the length of). This is especially confusing now that we have these seat belt laws. But ....
The scar itself didn't bother me so much as I knew that it would fade w/time - but what DID bother me was the "canyon" or "dent" in the muscling along the scar. That never went away. *sigh*
My smiley scar just above the pubic bone from my all-in-one tubal ligation, uterine & bladder suspension and appendectomy (of a perfectly healthy appendix -which torqued my jaws) disappeared in now time. You REALLY had to look for it to find it!!!
My scar across my nose from when I fell w/a coke bottle in my hands and nearly cut my nose off disappeared to the point of not being able to find it.
My scar from my chicken pox (?) vaccination on my thigh bothered my psyche more than any of my other scars. Darn thing never did really disappear.
And they were all from the days before Amica cream or anything being suggested to help heal and reducing scarring signs.
I do tend to wonder ..... all my "surgeries" were done by private surgeons - except my resection surgery was done at a teaching hospital. I've often wondered if they didn't assign the least practiced "stitcher" to close and whether my scar would have been more subtle and the muscles put back together more smoothly if the experienced surgeon had done the closing too as well as the surgery itself. Something I'll never know.
I do know that even at almost 70 years of age, if I need another surgery done at a teaching hospital I will absolutely request that the closing be assigned to the best "stitcher" they have on staff. IF any of them even know how to stitch anymore given the infatuation w/stapling now.
How come I HATE the thought of staples instead of stitches???