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Heading out to a business lunch when I am still on soft foods and nauseous

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HabsHockeyFan
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Posted 11/13/2012 8:02 AM (GMT -8)
I have had to "pretend" eat at business meals before, but this one is going to be harder.  I have to order noodles with just butter if I can and make it not so trasparent.  Mostly because a couple of the co workers attending the lunch are vultures and would love to have a reason to run me under the bus some more.  I ahve never had to do a business lunch when I was this ill before...in the past I could order an average meal and shove it around the plate to look like I ate a lot of it.

I am lucky enough to have some support, I just really am not in the mood for questions.

Cross your fingers that the soup of the day is something I can just order and not make special!

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lamb61
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Posted 11/13/2012 8:05 AM (GMT -8)
Yep, been there done that. Good luck, let's hope the soup is chicken noodle.
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CrohnieToo
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Posted 11/13/2012 8:09 AM (GMT -8)
I hope you have some Zofran or other to help w/the nausea a bit. Maybe they'll have a good Lobster Bisque! The Souper Cafe has a really great Lobster bisque. (((hugs))) You really do have my sympathies. May lunch not last too long and the afternoon go by quickly so you can get to the comfort of your own home.
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HabsHockeyFan
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Posted 11/13/2012 10:03 AM (GMT -8)
Thanks guys!   Turns out the soup was French onion and that was not an option.  I was able to ask for noodles with just butter queitly enough that no one heard...only one person asked me during the meal.  I told them I had seasoned oil....white lie, but it is on menu.

Now I am just queasy......but will make it to 4pm then I am leaving for the day hooray

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Posted 11/13/2012 10:17 AM (GMT -8)
Yay! I'm glad it turned out well! :)
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FamilyGuy
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Posted 11/13/2012 10:53 AM (GMT -8)
I've had to do that before. Not fun. I could not eat a thing and then to have coworkers look at like you have done something wrong rather than praise you for coming to the meeting in spite of your illness is hard row to hoe.

I'm glad you made it through.

Take care,
Jon
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big betty
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Posted 11/13/2012 11:35 AM (GMT -8)
Right on--good job! Habs=1 Vultures=0
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cleo35
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Posted 11/13/2012 12:16 PM (GMT -8)
Where do you work for crying out loud? I would have just told my boss, look I don't feel well and a couple of my co-workers are rude with no manners so I'm going to skip lunch. If you'd like my input on something I'll email it to you. Or better yet: I would have said that and ended with: now I'm going home....because in my opinion you shouldn't have been at work in the first place - I wouldn't have been.
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Posted 11/13/2012 3:12 PM (GMT -8)
So many women are on crazy diets...I think it is easier for a woman to order something unusual and get away without questions. I was at a conference with a buffet last year. They were all people that I needed to connect professionally with, but no friends. I was really nervous, but I just put some stuff on my plate and pushed it around and nobody noticed. I'm glad you made it through.
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HabsHockeyFan
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Posted 11/14/2012 6:44 AM (GMT -8)
Cleo - I actually work in the health insurance industry.  And I have a very understanding boss that has known me for about 20 years.  The thing is, sometimes you have to make an appearance to keep your job stable - I have a position where I present to both internal and external customers.  I also do not want to show signs of weakness because no matter what an HR department says, you can be harmed by peoples perceptions.  I have managed quite well over many years to hide my issues so I am able to work 40+ hours.  I know I am one of the fortunate ones.  I also knows it stinks and we should not have to "hide" our issues.  I just know that in reality you are corporately expected to give 110% all the time - with a fortunate boss who letss me rest when needed.

Gumby - yeah that is the good thing about those stupid wacky diets out there...nothing is out of the realm of possibility.  And most of the folks here know I wanted to diet to fit into my Mrs. Claus costume in December.  I consider myself skilled at the pushing food around concept....used to do it all the time when I worked for a person that always picked ethnic restaurants with no menu choices for me.  I just had not had to do it in a couple of years and lost my touch :-)

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RiddleMeThis
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Posted 11/14/2012 10:49 PM (GMT -8)
Do you simply push the food around on your plate or do you actually get a forkfull and pretend to eat? I have yet to master this or had a serious situation where this has come up. In the past, I've simply not gotten anything to eat and hoped for the best.

I hate when situations like this come up. Evil vultures love it...comment on our vanity, trying to lose weight, going to get an eating disorder. ugh. I hate superficial political bull. All at the same time you wish you could just chow down on some pizza, chinese food and everything naughty until you burst.

Put it to those vultures!
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HabsHockeyFan
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Posted 11/15/2012 4:27 AM (GMT -8)
Hey Riddle...it all depends on what I can order.  If it is something where I can eat bits of it, I eat those spread throughout the meal and move the rest around.  If you leave one space empty on the plate, it looks like you were just full.  If you order dishes that are not sandwiches or solid things cut up...it really helps.  Although I have sliced a small pork chop up and moved it around without ever eating any.  I also bury things under lettuce etc.

I sometimes get the wait staff asking if everything was OK...then I just say oh I was full.  I take/throw out a lot of leftovers then.  It really helps if you join in the conversation and then...ooops oh no I'm full thank you.

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MaxMilian
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Posted 11/15/2012 7:56 AM (GMT -8)
Yes, I too would like some practice at moving things around my plate so it looks like I've eaten when I really haven't. Anymore tips? Perhaps what kind of dishes make it easiest to "hide"?
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Crohn'snme
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Posted 11/15/2012 7:58 AM (GMT -8)
I would just order anything and then play with the food and say you really didn't care for it. No one needs to know and you don't need the added stress.
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HabsHockeyFan
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Posted 11/15/2012 8:46 AM (GMT -8)
Pastas work well....you can ball it up or cut it up and it looks eaten. Believe it or not those pesky vegetable decorations help too...I found moving them to another spot on the plate helps. Sandwiches really are too hard to make look eaten. Frankly, any movement around of food, with some good conversation and people don't spot much unless they are really looking
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MaxMilian
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Posted 11/16/2012 8:00 AM (GMT -8)
Cool thanks for the advice. I'll have to try this sometime. Not sure if this is as easy to explain for a male.
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