hello I thought about joining this to see if anyone else out there can understand what im going through and please give me advice... I am a 28 year old woman with 3 kids the past year and a half have been the worst for me it all began with a hemmoroid from having my last child at first it was nothing but last year I began to bleed very heavily and had lots of pain so I decided to see a doctor and they found a huge hemmoroid on the outside of my anus and a fissure at the same time !!! I couldn't take the pain so decided for surgery and only got worse well not fully but after that painful surgery after healing for a couple months I develop a huge abcess in the same spot so I go in for another surgery come home heal up and developed a fistula I really felt like crap in every way possible so they put that seton thing in for another two months and I just had the surgery 2 days ago to fix it and they left a plug in this time I thought this was it but im guessing it aint over yet I have so many questions with no answers from not nice nurses I don't know what to do is this normal ? whats wrong with me ?