Posted 8/28/2014 9:54 AM (GMT -6)
I understand that your situation involves a long story, but with what appears to be limited info, I agree w/ Kaz. Tough love can be effective. With one caveat, though, does he have any sort of intellectual disabilities? If so, "tough love" or kicking him out probably won't work as intended and could be dangerous in terms of the outcome. If he is a danger to himself, he may need to be hospitalized without a choice in the matter. Depression is one thing, but activities which put his life at risk are completely different. Purposely giving himself heat stroke is worrying. Did he do it because he is trying to die, or does he have a mental inability to understand the consequences of his actions? If you don't know the answer to this question, you need to find out.
You said he was fine until around 17, what happened at that point that caused a change?
Again, I know it may be a long story, but there seems to be a lot of info missing. For example, you said he cannot work, just having had a colectomy is *generally* not a reason to not be able to work at all. Is he on disability?
Depending on the extent of his inability to cooperate, you may be able to have him declared mentally incompetent and then he could be compelled to enter treatment. This is extreme, however, and probably not necessary but I don't have enough info on him/your situation to speculate.
At the very least, you should probably be open to getting him on some medication for depression/anxiety or whatever else he needs. Sometimes the brain cannot function without a little help. Denying someone the ability to be as happy/normal/healthy/whatever as they can be because you don't like "chemicals" is a serious mistake in my opinion.
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