I have this problem too.
I ALWAYS look for where the bathroom is. And at my work I also know the more remote bathrooms where it might be more private in case there are embarrassing noises/smells.
And, when I notice "leaking" / my sphincter is "tired" my GI told me to attribute to IBS more than Crohn's because my CD has been pretty contained to my Ileum so we have a different action plan for those issues. It's the worst.
Coffee, diet cola, sugar, tomatoes - all affect it for me. Haven't seen it with bread, but haven't really tried cutting that out.
Some years ago I also decided I was tired of wearing slightly stained underwear - so I buy a fresh, inexpensive set every 6-8 months or so. Makes a huge difference to how I feel so thought I'd share. Hope it's not TMI.
Official dx in TI 2007 with with obstruction and 10 day hospitalization.
Mild to moderate since then - frequent colitis Also IBS.
2014/16 - rectocele repair, bladder sling, endometrial cyst attch'd to colon
2017 - 4th colonoscopy. Inflamm in ilieum ("red"), new diverticulitis
Current Meds: Asacol. B12 shots (Prev: Pentasa, 6mp, Cipro, Pred