I've found most people to be utterly uncomprehending when it comes to having Crohn's, depression, or anything else which isn't about
them. If we are lucky, we might have a parent, a spouse or perhaps a friend or two who tries to understand, but if you don't even have one person in real life then it must be very, very tough. Most 'normal' people simply do not have the patience or empathy required to deal with a chronically ill person. (But that doesn't stop normal people from moaning about
their cold and how awful it is, whenever they get one.) If you want to experience what it's like to be a leper, be visibly depressed and watch people melt away from you, as they sense the misery emanating from you.
I try not to feel angry about
it anymore, as there is literally no point. If you have bitten your tongue for all these years, then a cathartic 'f off' to the next person to tell you get over it might be a worthwhile exception to the rule: at the least, they will be more likely to leave you alone in future and avoid saying inane things.
On a slightly more positive note, it may also be helpful to find the nearest Crohn's & Colitis support group to you and meet with people who have Crohn's in real life.
Dx Crohn's in June 2000. (Yay )
Tried: 5-ASAs, azathioprine, 6MP, Remicade, methotrexate, Humira, diets.
1st surgery 20/2/13 - subtotal colectomy with end ileostomy.
2nd surgery 10/7/15 - ileorectal anastomosis. Stoma reversed and ileum connected to the rectum.
Current status: Chronic flare. Do I have any other kind?
Current meds: 50mg 6MP; Entyvio (started 3/11/16)