I was on Remicade for 4 years with my first, and 7 with my second.
I felt so much better right after I started and then felt fantastic for 6 months, but then it started losing strength.
It's too bad that you started it and stopped it 12 years ago. You probably can't take it again without having a terrible reaction.
I guess you can try the others. I'm on Entyvio now. It's not as good as Remicade because it is gut specific.
With my first pregnancy, I saw 4 OBGYNs, 1 Maternal Fetal Medicine doctor, and 1 Perinatologist, along with my GI. None of them had a problem with me being on Remicade. In fact, the Perinatologist said that she's had pregnant women come in so sick that they had to start remicade during their pregnancies.
You sound pretty bad. I would get on a biologic and get through the loading doses before TTC. I just don't think it's a good idea to expose a fetus to the amount of medicine in all the loading doses.
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