thanks for the replies...they do help support me thru this.
i am in alanon...
i guess i just wish i could see the future and i know i cant. one of those things....
it isnt cold to say that, mikeb, it is reality. i know it. still doesnt make it easier, ya know? i dont mind you being honest with me. i value it.
he is 57 and retired last year. since then he has gone downhill on the drinking. his meds seem to be holding him pretty even, altho not healed nor stopped. just "less" crohns, if that makes sense. i bet he would be a good candidate for complete remission if he only would. without meds, he was really in bad shape. so i guess taking em some of the time beats not at all.
he has not been in any rehab and altho our insurance will pay for it, he just wont consider it.
i dont blame his drs for not wanting to mess with him. i get impatient and dont show much compassion when he is sitting in the bathroom for hours at a time. i usually leave him face first in the tub as he falls into it while on the toilet.
i guess its a serenity prayer thing. i daresay it probably will get worse and its a tribute to the human body how well it has tried to work despite everything.
mikeb, that is why the drs wont treat him further. they cant tell if the meds work or not with the alcohol involved.
again, thanks and best wishes to you all. :) jody