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dustspeck
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Posted 10/5/2007 2:31 AM (GMT -6)
so, there have been many layoffs at work and us office girls were being targeted next. they were going to lay off the last girl hired on, who is a 60 something y/o widow and not that great with computer skills. she's just for starters, my boss ran the m/e numbers and they were down like 35-40%. i have worked for a land surverying/civil engineering company for 6 years now, through the decline in the housing market we have been affected directly. i might also mention the owner is past retirement age. well, i voulunteerd to take the lay off rather than canning the other girl. the owner has agreed to pay for my health insurance for the next 6 months, if not the next year. i figure this is a good opportunity for me to de-stress from work (i work with someone that gets me so upset i shake at work) and the everyday stress of "am i even going to havea job tomorrow?" and also the long commute i have, which i drive 250/week just to get to and from work. and with me not knowing what is going on with my guts, and if i do go in for surgery (my gi once again said it's inevitable), i won't have the stress of work to haunt me and really give me time to recoup. so, none of you know me, i will take all criticism! am i being a baby about my crohn's? if you were given the opportunity would you take it?

gee, i wonder why i went to bed at 11pm with 2 trazodone but woke up at 3am!? besides a massive life transition, add some pains, wake up in a panic from a lucid dream ...i have lovely prednisone. thank you prednisone for once again waking me up at this god awful hour!
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teddybearweiser
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Posted 10/5/2007 3:52 AM (GMT -6)
Hi Stephanie, Well I hope you find a better job. Atleast you don't have a long drive any more.
It was nice of your boss to keep your health insurance for you.
TBW
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gachrons
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Posted 10/5/2007 4:56 AM (GMT -6)
Hi I know the pred. got me up at 3 too. I guess now you will be able to sleep when you feel like it. Hope you enjoy your rest .CD can be a job to handle in itself so don't feel like a break isn't deserved at times. So what are your plans for your time off? lol gail
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Susanknits
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Posted 10/5/2007 6:30 AM (GMT -6)
Look at this as a gift, a chance to figure out what you want to do. You have skills that can be useful in a variety of ways.

It's also a chance to get your health together.

good luck,

Susan
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dustspeck
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Posted 10/5/2007 7:25 AM (GMT -6)
thanks for the encouraging replies! it means a lot to me :) i am looking forward to studying more about my disease and whatever may become of it. i am also going to take some computer classes to sharpen up my skills. try and get a good diet and exercise plan in order. maybe get a small part time job. in massachusetts you can earn something like $400 a month and not have it affect your unemployment benefits. looking forward to starting a new job in the new year closer to home. i'm feeling pretty positive about the whole thing :)
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RedAdmin
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Posted 10/5/2007 7:40 AM (GMT -6)
I got laid off right before christmas one year. Turns out it was the best thing. I ended up having my surgery the end of January, it allowed me to concentrate on me and my healing afterward to not have a job. When I healed I found a good job that started out the way I wanted it to, very low stress. I was very afraid to have stress after the surgery, thought it would make me sick again. Well it is many years since then and I still am grateful to have had that time. If you have your insurance covered, I would you are not being a baby about it. I have also had jobs where some of my co-worker thought it was fun every day to see how long I could go till I would blow if they just kept picking. Well it is not healthy to live that way even if you don't have our problem.

Now in other words. Do what is best for you, and go for it.
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broomhilda
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Posted 10/5/2007 7:41 AM (GMT -6)
I need to be careful what I wish for here cause I have a great boss and a great job.  However, having said that, I would jump at the opportunity to be where you are now (with the exception of another surgery).  Sounds like a positive change waiting to happen to me too!  Go for it!
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dustspeck
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Posted 10/5/2007 8:38 AM (GMT -6)
THANK YOU! i am feeling even better about it today. just gotta stay thinking positive and that i am not a loser for leaving my job!!
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RedAdmin
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Posted 10/5/2007 8:49 AM (GMT -6)
Just like our disease does not define who we are neiver does our job. It is just a job and there will be others. You are not a loser for trying to take care of your self.
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Stef17
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Posted 10/5/2007 8:50 AM (GMT -6)
I'd do it in a heartbeat! As long as you have health insurance, the rest can be worked out! Enjoy your break and take good care of yourself.
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JaSanne
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Posted 10/5/2007 9:47 AM (GMT -6)
I've been a stay-at-homer for most of my 31 year marriage, mostly because I haven't felt well enough to work 2 jobs (keeping a home IS work!). 18 years of it was the stay-at-home mom job, which is more accepted today than when I was younger it seems. I was really ridiculed by friends and extended family because I didn't have a job, which made me feel like a wimp. But I knew every time I worked, I would get increasingly more exhausted and sick, but I didn't know what I had was CD back then. My husband has always been fine with me being at home, though, but I feel terribly guilty all the same.

Anyway, the point is that we all have different levels of illness and energy with CD and many of us just can't function at the level society demands of us. I admire those of you who are able to hold a job because I know how hard it is.

It sounds like a great opportunity for you. You aren't being a baby at all.
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FitzyK23
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Posted 10/5/2007 9:48 AM (GMT -6)
Get your health insurance agreement IN WRITING!!!
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dustspeck
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Posted 10/5/2007 11:54 AM (GMT -6)
thanks again for all your responses :) it's good to hear from people who can relate ...that is for sure!!!!

gosh i can't believe this is all going down next week! eeep!
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mojowo4
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Posted 10/5/2007 12:21 PM (GMT -6)
I would do it in a heart beat too, In my line of work (lawncare) I get a winter lay off where I only work 10-15 hours a week auditing and so forth and I look forward to it every year. It gives me time to recharge for a couple months and I get to spend some more quality time with my daughter. You are not a wimp for taking yourself as priority!
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dustspeck
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Posted 10/5/2007 2:07 PM (GMT -6)
THANK YOU for thinking i am not a wimp :D
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Susanknits
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Posted 10/5/2007 4:45 PM (GMT -6)
Look at it this way... you're also doing a favor and a good deed for the person who ISN'T getting laid off who would certainly have a much harder time finding something new!

Susan
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dustspeck
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Posted 10/5/2007 8:23 PM (GMT -6)
susan - no doubt! her manager was supposed to give her a months notice 2 weeks ago and he never even told her! she would have been completely crushed :/ i do have great office skills in accounting and i know i can find a job a lot easier when the time comes :)
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malakai
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Posted 10/6/2007 12:20 AM (GMT -6)
no you are not being a whimp! actually I would take it as a blessing in disguise and it should help you recoup faster. Yes the health insurance is a double bonus. If I was offered the same thing, I would take it.

Enjoy this time off. =0)
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dustspeck
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Posted 10/6/2007 6:17 AM (GMT -6)
thanks malakai! i am going to make the most of my time :)
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