I just wanted to welcome you to HW, although I am sorry that you have to be here. I know that with Pentasa there isn't a problem with preg. I have seen on this board people who have taken pred during preg too. I believe that for most people Remicade is sort of a 'you take it until it doesn't work anymore', but I haven't gotten to the point where I need it yet so I don't know a whole lot.
I think that basically they can get you on drugs that will be ok to have a baby with. They do recommend that you be in remission since you will likely feel like you crap the whole time if you aren't (that's what they say anyway).
The hard part of this darn disease is that you can live your life, but sometimes not in the way you had planned. It is fine to try and get answers to your questions, but don't let it upset you either. Working on getting to a point that you are better, and the rest will fall in to place. I'm not trying to be bossy, I am at a simular place, we are trying to decide if we want another child (our third), it is a huge decision all by itself, but now I am faced with the fear that I won't have the energy to care for the baby, or that I might end up in the hospital again. Doc just put me on imuran and said no to babies on this drug, however other people have said that they have taken it during preg. Sorry for rambling, just wanted to let you know that there are others out there feeling frustrated and feeling the same way as you.....
Now that I am completely not making any sense (we will blame it on the pred) I will stop babbling. I hope that you find some answers and that they will calm your fears.
Living with Crohns for 1 year. I have a wonderful husband and two beautiful little girls.
One blessing that came with my Crohns: I thank God for each day that I can get out of bed and take care of my girls and my home.