hugs to you also, becoming undone! ty!
this would be a very personal choice for you and your spouse or significant other. i could only give my view on what i want or need.
what im frustrated about, and i dont know if this applies to you or not...so please know im speaking for me and my situation only. :)
since my H retired, he has about fallen apart mentally. i thought it would help him physically, as he worked 12 hour shifts and a diff shift every week type job. he has just went to pieces, drinking constantly and not doing a thing to help himself with his crohns. not doing much at all, to be honest, but drink and sleep.
when i see blood, (on the wall today, yet! how did that happen?) and i know he not only is drinking way too much and not eating right, but not taking meds at all right, i know he is worsening. im frustrated because his denial or depression or both is causing him to play roulette with his life, right when it should be the best time of it.
it isnt i want to know all of his business, but this will end up becoming mine when he falls too ill to not be taken to a ER, and i see him almost trying to kill himself slowly.
i so wish you and all here the best, i dont post much at all because i feel i dont belong here since i dont have this awful disease. but i almost feel i know most of you and pray for the board every day.
if yours works for you, im glad. but dont let him feel left out. it isnt a burden, its what marriage is meant to be. sickness and health, all that? :) ...i know it must be hard to face all this. sometimes we as spouses need to help...tho, and usually we cant. i look at it as part of the bargain we struck way too many years ago :)...
hug****to you and your family...jody