OK Veteran Ladies..Holiday Madness & CD Tips

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Date Joined May 2007
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   Posted 11/4/2007 9:42 PM (GMT -7)   
You know the routine with the upcoming holidays...now, how the heck do you survive the cooking, cleaning, endless preparations, decorations, guests, etc., etc. etc. with the CD.
Savy tips welcome!  I'm talking about organizatonal type tips and the like.  We all pretty much know how to destress if we take our own advice.  I'm lookin' meat & potatoes information here.
I entertained this evening for the first time in 2 years.  Everything went pretty well, however, I was exhausted by after the dinner. This was a family event and they understood my need to take a nap, "humira weekend".  I still couldn't help but feel that I had deserted my guests even though their every need had been addressed before I crashed.
I had requested the get-together take place at my house because of my "shot" weekend and I thought this would be easier on me and everyone else.  What is your input in this situation?
Dx'd Jan'06, 1st Resection 7/06, Predinsone, Humira, Imuran, B12 injections, Nexium. Secondary conditions: Psorasis, Acne, Fatigue, Joint Pain, Lactose Intolerant, gallstones, fibroid cysts, peri-menopausal.

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   Posted 11/5/2007 5:57 AM (GMT -7)   
I feel your pain. I hosted a Halloween party which is a yearly thing for me. I thought that thing would go great I was a week out from my Remicade infusion. What a disaster. I was kicking myself in the butt the whole day and for the next week. I am the kind of person who does not like other people to know that I am sick and try not to let it show when I am, so having a get together was important to me (crazy I know). It was my way to show people that I am ok and that it is no big deal. People treat me different now that they know that I have crohn's and it is not easy to educated family let alone friend about the disease. Get real tired of them asking can she do this is, are you ok, do we need to leave soon.It is nice at first but after a while you start to feel like a pain in their butt. So i am thinking the less people that know the better. So any tips on how to take on the holidays or any event are very welcome here as well!!! Thanks!

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   Posted 11/5/2007 6:08 AM (GMT -7)   

Don't have much time to type but I wanted to chime in and let you know I know how you feel....

I have always cooked the food for both tday and xmas. I just get so tired that I usually sneak off and lay down on my bed.

I am also very organized. I cook some foods the day or even week before like bread. I have steps I take, Like some things need to bake while others cook on the stove top... I have just learned to ask for help to (even though I hate it). I ask some people to bring a dish I don't have to make like mashed potatoes or something easy



Karen (Karendee)

Diagnosed w/ Crohn’s Disease  March 2007 On Azathioprine (generic Imuran), Pentasa, & ENTOCORT

Diagnosed w/  Fibromyalgia May 2007 also on Soma

Also have Arthritis, and feel like I am falling apart sometimes...

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   Posted 11/5/2007 6:19 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi It is great you are able to have a good get together with family it's the hoilays and entertaining I worry about. The only thing I can suggest is to have as much as possible ready before hand like the desert I buy more stuff now instead of making it. Getting help also makes a difference with the cooking. Veggies can be peeled early and perhaps a rest before guest arrive. Timing might help but I guess the good thing is that it brings family together and most should realize that we only have so much energy they must have been happy just to be able to share a meal with you.Perhaps limiting get togethers to tea and desert might help at times. I really don't do much entertaining it's the not getting the cramps thing I wonder about.lol gail

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   Posted 11/5/2007 6:31 AM (GMT -7)   
I second what Gail said! I love to cook, but I get as much ready ahead of time. We have a huge Christmas party (oh boy it is in 4 weeks and the house is a disaster) and I have found finger foods that I can make when I feel good and freeze. ps if anyone else has some good make ahead recipes for frozen finger foods I would love the input.

I also schedule a nap before any get together we throw. And I mean schedule. I make myself take one (Christmas party goes from 7pm to 6 am!). I also make sure I sit down whenever I have a chat with someone--it is a good way to reserve little bits of energy. Finally, I make sure I eat little bits all through the day and never have a big meal---evryone thinks i am just being hostess and never eating, but they don't have to know.

Finally, enlist the help of close friends and family for assistance. There are several friends that know what my life is like....I let them do the little things like reorganize the food table as things empty and everyone is serve themselves for drinks.
Dx'd '90 (emergency rupture), symptoms ignored long before that, '03 fistulas and bad flagyl reactions, B12 weekly, Pentasa [until I surrender to the bigger meds]
I'm riding on the escalator of life....

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   Posted 11/5/2007 7:43 AM (GMT -7)   
I was still recovering from surgery when my future daughter-in-law asked if she could use my home for her wedding shower, the place she had planned on bombed at the last minute. At that point my house hadn't been cleaned in a few months. I called a service, had them come in and clean top to bottom. It was cheaper than you'd think, but still more work for me than I thought it would be.

As far as cooking. I seem to have holidays at my house pretty regularly. If I have my way (sometimes my husband likes to do Italian and we cook everything), I ask everyone to bring a dish. I cook the main portions of the meal (turkey, ham, roast beef, whatever you choose) and assign different side dishes to different family members. I also do the potatoes because they just taste better freshly mashed ;0)

As far as the house cleaning, I usually have my husband, son or daughter here the day before to do some of the heavy cleaning like the floors and the patio area. I do the light stuff, washing throw rugs, dusting, bathrooms, in small increments the week before as I feel like it and/or have time.

I'm usually a Bah Humbug person around the Holidays. It just gets too busy and stressful, and like I mentioned, we usually have everyone to our house (because no one else will do it because it's too busy and stressful). As far as gifts, we no longer have small children around and buying for picky adults is the pits. I always vote that we don't exchange gifts but get out voted, sigh.

I'm hoping that since I'm off school this semester, and off work still because of the CD, that maybe it will be a little more fun for me. Hopefully I can do things slower and enjoy them. But to me the holidays are for the children, I wish my kids would get with the program and give me some grandkids, lol.
49 years old, Crohn's Disease   
Six resection surgeries, permanent ostomy, adverse reactions to Remicadeback on 6MP for maintenance, hoping for a long remission from this last surgery. 

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   Posted 11/5/2007 7:57 AM (GMT -7)   
Im still young so I havent done the holidays at my house yet but I fine traveling can be just as tiring. I try to plan ahead and go somewhere I know I am comfortable (my parents house) and to bring EVERYTHING I need included bath salts, and creams, and wipes, etc. I tell my mom ahead of time to pick up soy milk and what to cook w/ etc. Then when I get there I help her with a lot but she knows to let me sleep in if we are having a big day. I usually allow myself a nap after the meal and dont feel guilty. We soak some stuff beforehand but save the dishes for later. I love this thread though!!
25 Year old married female.  Diagnosed w/ CD 2 years ago, IBS for over 10 years before that, which was probably the CD.
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   Posted 11/5/2007 9:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Broom, pass the buck, whenever you can! I can't come up with much else. I feel like "have yourselves a merry little
Christmas, but don't drag me into it" Awful I know, but I just can't help it. Judy I have enough, you could borrow some
of mine, but you would have to go to the UK to get them LOL.

Too many years with CD
Two bowel resections, several obstructions.

Laughter is the brush that sweeps the cobwebs from our hearts

Becoming undone
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   Posted 11/5/2007 9:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Bless my husband's wonderful soul...he will be doing much more this year. I'm still doing it at home as I can be in my own bed and use my own facilities without huge embarrassment. It is hard for me to stay long at other's houses(I have issues using other facilities, except on extreme emergencies...to say the least, not very good to try and hold it in). I will be having my remicade infusion and will be wiped out (doc is upping the dose). Oh and did I mention we are have 2x the amount of people here for Thanksgiving?

I made some pre-run pies, and I couldn't even roll out the dough this year. URGHHHHHHH!!!! The joints in my wrists are so inflamed. I may just buy Costco pies. Again, my husband will be helping with a lot of the cleaning, lifting, etc.

I hope you all stay relaxed and find wonderful help for the holiday season. Oh and that we'll be able to eat all the things we love without ill consequences.

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   Posted 11/6/2007 8:41 PM (GMT -7)   
I am an organized person and I do bake ahead and the like, even though some things are better prepared just before serving. Childhood Christmas memories for my husband has always been difficult so I have always gone ALL OUT (borderline Martha Stewart) as best as I can afford too since we've been together. Last year I was still recouping after surgery so everyone was empathetic. This year I'd like to try ALL OUT again, I just don't know if I can handle it. As for gifts, our family has grown large enough that all the young adults/teenagers draw names and couples treat each other for an evening or breakfast out after the holiday is over. This saves alot of stress & money on everybody! I also agree with Judy...buying for picky adults is NO fun. I want grandchildren too!!! I've secretly started buying sewing patterns for the nursery layout...all daughter-in-law has to do is pick a theme/color, etc. I also have an extensive library planned for my grandchildren. I want them to experience REAL books, the smell, the feel of them. One day they will be a thing of the past as everything goes to digital media. So sad! Alright...I'm off topic now!
Dx'd Jan'06, 1st Resection 7/06, Predinsone, Humira, Imuran, B12 injections, Nexium. Secondary conditions: Psorasis, Acne, Fatigue, Joint Pain, Lactose Intolerant, gallstones, fibroid cysts, peri-menopausal.

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   Posted 11/7/2007 1:47 PM (GMT -7)   
I am beginning to think I will do some more cleaning ,Still have the bedrooms,at least half a bedroom , bathroom ,hall and other things I have not done in awhile, but you are starting to inspire me some. Keep it coming and I might actually get up and do something. I like the creamcheese pies that I but easy and good. Weird but I am actually thinking of a tree already .It is good you started this because sometimes I forget I am not super woman anymore and need extra time now to get things done. The sewing for the grangkids sounds wonderful let us know what she comes up with. lol gail
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