I don't want him to think that I'm pushing him away, but sometimes, I just can't bring myself to be "romantic" when I have a flare.
I don't think there's a way to tell any man that you "don't feel romantic" lol. I don't know that there's any way to make him, any man, understand. I think for most women, "romance" is out of the question if you're not feeling well, while most men will "do it" even if they have a limb hanging by a thread, lol. Seriously, this can really be an issue, it certainly was with my ex. My current husband is much better about knowing when I'm really not into it, even though he's not always happy about it.
Im really joking about the "romance" thing just being male. I had a male friend with CD that had the same issues with his wife that I had with my husband. They just never understood this disease because you can "look" okay.
Your husband sounds like he's trying, he's not perfect, but trying as much as anyone without this disease can. You may have to "remind" him once in a while, and he may get irritated, but no one said living with this disease was going to be easy.
At least you can come here and vent when you need to ;0)