Get creative! For me it's the dang prednisone that causes me the most trouble. It's hard to be in the mood and my response time takes a lot longer. Also, rough & tumble is out of the question anymore as it was in the younger days. I try to be sensitive to his needs whether I am feeling up to par or not. My husband tends to get whiny if I let him go too long. He was that way before the CD dx. I admit sometimes it's just to get him to shut up! He is for the most part supportive and understanding and has never been too assertive at anytime in our marriage if I didn't want too. So far it's been a great 26 years, 2 years with all kinds of CD complications & surgeries. He says he loves me even more so now! You have to communicate your feelings and leave the door wide open to "hear" his concerns, likes and dislikes. Helping your partner understand what works for you and what doesn't will make it easier for both of you. Above all else...be honest! Believe me, if I can do it with a nephrostomy bag dangling from a tube inserted in my kidney to a urine bag attached to my leg....there is hope! Yeah, it's hard to feel sexy....but confidence is very attractive!
Dx'd Jan'06, 1st Resection 7/06, Predinsone, Humira, Imuran, B12 injections, Nexium. Secondary conditions: Psorasis, Acne, Fatigue, Joint Pain, Lactose Intolerant, gallstones, fibroid cysts, peri-menopausal.