I know where you are coming from because I used to be a corrections officer. I had 2 other staff in my unit and I couldn't go into the bathroom without telling them where I would be. Also, if I was outside of the unit I would need to find a replacement staff to fill my spot while I used the bathroom. Often all 28 of my "residents" would know I was in the bathroom because they were waiting to go to the food hall and couldn't leave until I got out to join the unit. BUT!!! I am so glad I stuck with it and worked through the embarassment. Here is why! I learned that I should not care who knows I am going to the bathroom and how many times I am going. I realized it really really isn't important to me what people think of me. I know I am smart, attractive, fun, and loving lol. I have my husband, my dog, my cat, my career, and my parents. And that, honestly, is all I need. If someone doesnt want to be friends with me because I poop too much, then it is THEIR problem, not mine. It honestly took me YEARS of working there to get to that realization. But, I am so glad I came to it. And if I had left work to find something more crohns convenient I would probably still be embarassed to get sick on a bus, or at a friends house, or at the mall. But I am over that. And without getting to that point I never would have gone to law school and could never stand up and try a case. I have a mock trial on Saturday and when I have to poop I am just going to tell the judge I need a recess. Poop. And resume the trial. Thats how it goes.
Even after I left corrections I went to therapy to help me get more comfortable with this. But again, best decision I have ever made. You are not in a position where you are going to have accidents because there is no one there to take over for you. You have the help and the freedom to leave if you need to. You just have someone that knows that you leave. WHO CARES :) And I made light of it too. I poop kind of quick so sometimes Id just say, oh too much water today. But if you are only going 6 times thats like once an hour. I am sure they are not counting and not noticing "how much" you go. I know people that pee way more than that.
Dont let this disease ruin your career. Find a way to be comfortable enough with yourself that you can do what you need to and not worry what others think. The more you give in to that embarassment the worse it will get. Rather than no longer having embarassment you will find something new to be embarassed about.
26 Year old married female. Diagnosed w/ CD 3 years ago, IBS for over 10 years before that, which was probably the CD. Currently on Pentasa 4 pills/4x day, hysociamine prn, nexium, and ortho evra. Good times!!!