Personally I would tell them as soon as possible. I was 8 when I was Dx so I have had it now for 20 years...diagnosed anyway had symptoms for 3 years before that. I have had complications this year. Prior to this year meds alone where keeping the CD controlled. This year I had to have emergency surgery in February, had complications with that surgery and ended up needing emergency surgery 1 week after the 1st one. I also had complications with this surgery one of them being a residents fault she got feces in my incision and when I asked her to flush it with sterile saline she proceeded to dab the poop up with non sterile gauze and said that will be okay...she made me have a wound infection and I had a wound vac and now I have a 1500 bill from the wound vac complany...had I stayed in the hospital the insurance would have payed 100% of it...but back to this yr for me. I ended up having a temp ostomy in that 2nd surgery in February. I had it reversed and removal of an abscess that wouldnt heal then adhesions removed, abd walls scraped from infection etc.
My Cd has already returned and now it seems as though it is now in my colon where b4 it was always in my ileum. I have had some tests already and am having a colonoscopy this week to determine how much of the colon is involved around the fistula area as well. I have to have another surgery.
I too had a relative pass away from complications with UC. His complications were durgically related he went in to Lahey clinic in boston to have the j pouch proceedure this was 16 years ago. The proceedure was done in 3 steps (not sure if it still done that way) he had severe sepisis mult complications etc and passed away at 29.
CD is different than UC in some aspects and the ccfa site has a lot of info but if you go to crohn's and me site they will send you 100 questions and answers about
uc and cd just for registering on their site. I would tell your family so that they can be there for you as far as support explain to them the differences between UC and CD especially since all you really know about
at this time is UC except as you say from what you have recently read.
I think it is a tough illness but the more support you have the easier it can be at times especially when in a flare it can make it easier. I find my family is supportive but esp my husband has a tough time with it since I lay down a lot at home he thinks well I can do a lot he doesnt understand how crummy we can feel and still look as if we feel fine.
Dx with Crohn's 1987, symptoms as early as 1984.
Temp iliostomy February 2007, reversed June 2007, Ovarian cysts, migraines, allergies (incl food allergies) , oral allergy syndrome (diff than true food allergies), Asthma, Gall Bladder removed 1999, Inguenal hernia 1987