Cystic Fibrosis and depression

Hi there, my husband has CF and is 29. We just saw a counselor today because we are having problems in our marraige. (He has become emotionally unavailable to me and everyone). The counselor believes he is depressed (as do I). My husband,however doesn't believe he is. I'm having such a hard time with this because we have always had such a good relationship (together over 10 years). HOwever, this passed 1.5 years, he has really pulled away and shut down. Has anyone else had these problems and how did you overcome them? He says that this is nothing I did or didn't do, it's totally him...but he doesn't know what has changed inside him, so he doesnt know how to fix it. His health has been steady, and he's not yet needed to be on a lung translplant list.....I'm at a loss...My little boy needs his daddy, and I need my husband while he's still here...And he's checked out emotionally too early for this ride....
Any feedback would be greatly appreciated!

JP

Post Edited By Moderator (Admin) : 4/12/2005 1:17:32 PM (GMT-6)

JP21,
I have been married to a wonderful man with CF for 5 years and it has been the best time of my life. Please realize that some of the medication that he might be on could cause him to be at the least irratable. His body may also be going through some physical changes that have yet to be manifested. This also triggers a Physiological response in the form of depression.
But as one wife to another just telling him that he is depressed usually doesn't to the trick. Leave him alone and let him sort it out for himself. Be there for him when he needs you but realize you can't "make him happy". He has to be a party to becoming happy. You can still love him while living life but you can't control how he feels. If you want to talk further please feel free to e-mail me at fox at bright ok dot net.

Hi, I'm new.  My name is Cindy, I'm 24, I have Cystic Fibrosis and two beautiful healthy little girls.

I'm replying to this because I, too, suffer from depression.  It can be a combination of medications, and just not feeling well. I am now on zoloft and it helps sooo much.  I know it's one more med to take, but I feel better than I have in years.