Boys and CF

 

This is hard one, on the one hand telling straight away can scare people off. However on the other hand, if you leave it too long and then tell him, you're gonna risk breaking up anyway, as you haven't been honest.

 

I have always told straight away, and anyone that bit more serious, have asked questions, looked up CF, got scared, asked more questions-then they've been ok with it. My friend has always had a harder time, though he's getting there now.

 

I think it is totally dependant on the guy you like really. A whole lot of everything is going to depend on how he feels about it all. If he does lose interest though, I'd say it's better you know early on before there are any really strong feelings. Think about how you will describe CF. I always start with it's a bit like asthma, and then add the worser stuff later.

 

Hope this helps, and hope it all goes well

All the best

Gem

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I'm from the UK!!!!! If anything I say makes no sense to you, let me know so I know how not to be so English.

 

I totally know where you're coming from!

The guy I am dating now, well, we've been dating on and off for nearly 4 years, and I just now involved him because I was totally nervous. He always thought I just get sick a lot. But, I told him about my CF recently, not in really strong details, but the basics, and he cared so much he went and read two whole books on the subject, and even better, he's still around!

 

If you care about this guy, and you think he cares about you, I would tell him. Sooner or later it's going to come up, and if there is a chance that he will reject you for it (which he shouldn't) then its better to happen before you both get too involved.

 

I agree with Gem though, when the topic of my health first came up years ago, I too used the "It's like asthma," line. Eventually, he caught on that there was more to it, what with me always being sick, hearing me mention my regular doctor appointments, the fact that they were at a hospital and not a typical doctors office, and I never hide my therapy machines. little stuff like that leads to questions, which leads to more questions, and eventually an earnest interest or a total rejection. Now, after he read those books, I'm sure my bf knows more about the technical aspects of my CF than I do :)

 

Good luck :)