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Posted 3/4/2006 7:56 AM (GMT -8)
Hi everyone.  My sister has CF (18) and is planning to marry.  I am happy for her but not real sure if this is a good decision.  Any thoughts?
Posted 3/4/2006 3:24 PM (GMT -8)
Why would you not think this is a good idea? Plenty of people with CF are married. If getting married will make her happy, and it’s something they both want, I say go for it.
Posted 3/7/2006 4:39 AM (GMT -8)
Our family take good care of her and she is only 18.  I am not sure that her fiancee understands what he is taking on.
Posted 3/7/2006 5:14 PM (GMT -8)

i understand your concern, however, does he make HER happy? b/c if he does, itll give her another reason to keep fighting. Trust me i keep telling my dad, just because i have C.F doesnt mean i dont wanna have fun still i dont wanna be happy. i wish i could find some one to share my shorten life with. but everyone i tell i have Cf too they run away. instead of not standing by her let her be happy. he didnt run did he? do ya no how many guys would have? he obviously loves her. support your sister. all of us sick or not sick has 1 live to life. let her live her life. shes 18 like u said, shes old enough to make the right decisions for herself and if she doesnt she will only learn. but you should be happy for her to find a guy whos willing to stand beside her and not run off.

best of luck to ya and your sister

patricia

Posted 3/7/2006 5:36 PM (GMT -8)
 hi if your sister is ready to settled down with the guy she is with and they are happy and he is going to be there for her when times get real ruff then just be happy for her . i've been married for almost 5yrs and together with the same guy for almost 10 and couldn't be happier and he has been here through the good and the bad times with my cf.

Posted 8/6/2006 8:48 PM (GMT -8)
hi. there
from personal experience. let your sister marry. it would be great for both her and her bf. Ive just lost my boyfriend in june. He was born with cf and he was only 22. we were together for 3 years and we planned on getting married. It was something that i wish we would have just done. I know that our relationship is what probably carried him on the last few years of his life. We were everything to eachother.. and if i could change one thing i wish we would have married. thats all he wanted. we had planned when we were gonna get our rings.. and i could just see how excited he was just to move forward in life as we were in the jewlery store.. So if its not too late.. let your sister marry.
Posted 8/13/2006 11:56 PM (GMT -8)
valc, I truly feel for you. Being a sufferer myself, it's a cruel jolt back into reality when someone tells you something like this.
Posted 8/14/2006 5:53 AM (GMT -8)
I think that you should not worry about your sister! My cousin married her husband (Jamie) knowing that she did not have much time. In that 8 months she had never been more happier! She would go for her treatments because she now had someone to keep fighting for. See when they got together she told him from the start. She was so happy planning her wedding. And on that day she had such a loving look on her face all day. And then to tell everyone this is my husband she was so happy she had tears in her eyes. And Jamie was there beside her till the end. Anything she has or needed was done by him faster than her mother or father could do. He learned before she moved in with him how to do everything. I think that it is the best for CF people to get married if it makes them happy because that is all that matters. Them being happy. Just think about this do you want to be happy? Do you want to marry? And do you want to have kids? Well yes you do. And so do they. They are no different then you and me. And if she would want kids later in life she can with the help of her doctor. My cousin was talking about it with her doctor. But she just took to long. Don't let that happen to your sister.
Erica
ericamricard@yahoo.com
Posted 8/14/2006 7:06 AM (GMT -8)
Your sister getting married could be a very good thing! It's important to keep their lives as "normal" as possible and planning a future with someone gives hope and determination. I met a woman with CF at the hospital that had two beautiful children w/o CF and she often said if it wasn't for the love of her husband & kids, she would have given up a long time ago. Her family was also concerned about her getting married but it proved to be one of the best things she decided to do for herself. Not saying her life as a mom was easy but seeing the pride and determination in her eyes when they came to visit was proof enough of how much of a difference they made in her will to fight. Be happy for your sister!
Posted 10/12/2006 7:52 PM (GMT -8)
Yes, CFers do get their spouses tested to see if they are a gene carrier. I haven't heard of a CF not doing this, as we don't want to pass CF on to our child.
Posted 10/18/2006 10:58 AM (GMT -8)
I would say go for it....if she wasnt 18. I don't think anyone is ready to marry at 18. She's probably just out of high school and needs to find herself before settling down.
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