"Don’t be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin."
Hey there. I read ur message, and I'd like to share my opinions with you. My name is Emily, I am just turning 17, and I have CF. I have known about mine since I was 2 yrs old. I would like to start off by saying that I do not agree with abortion in normal cases, and with your case, I still don't. Don't worry this won't turn into a lecture abt reasons not to get an abortion, as that is none of my business. But I do want you to know, that I think this baby should live. Like the quote at the top, telling us to live our lives to the fullest no matter how short or long it may be. Everyone deserves that chance at life. I do see your point about your baby maybe despising you in the future, but I see that as highly unlikely. Having a chronic illness like CF helps you to realize how much your friends and family love you, and what they would do for you. Yes having CF is definetly a down side in life, but there are so many good things in life that work to balance it out. Family, friends, love and caring, sunny days, snowing days, the beauty of nature and the world around us, and even the possibility of finding that one special person are all a part of the balancing factors. Of course having this illness can mean having hard times in your life, and I don't know if your religious or not, but in the bible God tells us that he will never give us more than we can handle.
CF takes patience and support, love and care. Sometims it takes strength; strength for the patient, strength for the family and friends. Do not forget that not all CF cases are bad. While some people are hospitalized multiple times a year, others, like me, have not been since I was 2 (although there were a few close calls). I have talked to alot of people with worse cases than mine, and not once did they think badly of their parents for passing on the gene. Life is a god given gift meant to give us strength and security, joy and love, friends and family, and any other thing u can think of. Everyone has hard times, CFers just have it a bit harder; but I have no doubt that any of us can pull through.
I know this wasn't the question you asked, and all I can really tell you abt what to expect isn't all that great; but what illness is? Sure you may have to do "pat pats" 3 times a day, deal with constant colds and not to pleasant diapers, coax ur child into taking meds, going to the doctor regularly, and possibly have to be with them in the hospital occasionally. As they get older they will have to adjust to new treatment methods, and start dealing with issues of sickness during school and absences; well they have health plans to help kids like us, so don't worry to much abt that. You see I can't tell you much on what to expect, as my life is only just beginning. I can however, tell you that I believe that you and your baby can make it through this; and if God has other plans then we can't help that, he holds our lives in his hands where he nurtures and loves us all.
I would try turning to God, he really is up there.