I find that when my DH and I disagree or argue or fight, I'M the one who feels depressed the next day. Then he'll turn it on my later today by saying something like "are you done ignoring me?" Suddenly, I'm on the defensive.
I do have a many and varied history of depression, and am well controlled with meds. It's only when we fight that I somehow recoil into a figurative fetal position, feel down all day at work, want to go home and sleep the day away, etc. Is this common? Normal?
Know what he did? He hid a bottle of rum. In the snowbank. Somewhere outside. I mean, c'mon. Aren't we both adults? They sell this stuff in things called stores, and if I want some, I can get it. I'm not an alcoholic, but enjoy a drink or two. We have discussed both of us cutting down as part of new year's goal, and we have days that are alcohol free. However, who is he to decide for me whether something is good for me or not?BTW, I'm on weight watchers, very near my goal weight, and have been doing really well lately with eating/exercise, so for him to do this just seems SO CHILDISH.
But it's my reaction that I need help with. How to I "shake off" this down feeling, reframe the situation, and turn my anger outward toward him rather than inward on myself? Thanks for any supportive words