Moved out & back, can't get on track, never more depressed than this. Any help?

Searching, have you told your wife what you told us here? I think it might help her to know that you, too, have been hurt by your past behaviour, and that you are making serious and genuine efforts to change and make amends.

I think that you have been very brave to come here and ask for our help. It takes courage to acknowledge mistakes, and even more think about changing your life. The next step, of course, is to do take some concrete steps towards positive change. As the others have said, if you do think that you are depressed, a very constructive first step might be to have yourself examined by a doctor.

I am very sorry that you have got yourself into this mess, and that you feel that your life is disintegrating around you. I hope that, in time, you will be able to find some peace and maybe even some resolution of your worries. In the meantime, I hope that you'll keep posting and will tell us how you're getting on.

With best wishes,

Ivy.

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I am glad to see you are going to get some help.
Not that this is completely unheard of abnormal behavior, in fact it happens alot here, but it is really going to take hard work to fix. You have to be committed to making a change in your behavior, but I think you already know this. This is about taking responsiblity and filling that hole (that you have been filling with other people/possibly substances) within yourself. Am I on target with you here?
You cannot get what you need from other people, it has to come from within yourself. This is not a licease to be selfish, but to get squared away, and you can do it. Because what it comes down to is that we all make mistakes and what makes us better people is to learn, grow, and love deeper. I get the feeling that you think therapy is bunk, but I suggest a new frame for therapy. Please look at it as a way to grow as a human being, because that is what a therapist does is to help you grow. I think individual therapy for your immediate family would be a good idea, and family therapy for your immediate family would be a good idea as well.
There is a reason no one is an island unto themselves, there is an interconnectiveness to us all.

Best wishes!

Something to think about what would you tell your children (assuming that you are a loving compassionate father who would never want them to hurt) if they found themselves in your situation twenty years down the road? What would you want their outcome to be? How would you want them to grow from this situation?

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Post Edited (MMMNAVY) : 2/4/2008 5:39:30 PM (GMT-7)

Making major life decisions right now in your state is probably not the best thing. I am a big believer in working out as a suppliment to therapies for depression, because I think empowering to be healthy.

If you do not mind me asking, what is the problem with your relationship with your wife? Can you id it? Because I suspect that the problems with your romantic relationship and your other relationships, is symptomatic of a want or a need not being met within yourself? And if that is the case then it will be repeated in other relationships...Please tell me if I am off the mark here...

I also have to wonder about your wife and children's wellbeing here...hence why I included them in individual and family therapy...

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Post Edited (MMMNAVY) : 2/4/2008 6:17:09 PM (GMT-7)

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I am glad you have returned to talk with us.  I understand the breaking out into tears and feeling like you have lost yourself.  I think perhaps you have right now but you will get back to better times with hard work.
You may need to try a different type of therapy and meds, if you are not taking anything, meds can be good to help you through.
You are right on base with the exercise.  It is well known that exercise will help fight depression and anxiety.  Sometimes it is difficulty to find the willpower to follow through with the exercise when your feeling so down.

I would still advise getting that physical, it is good to have a baseline of how your health is and make sure nothing is physically contributing to the situation.

I wish you peace.
Kitt

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I went to the meeting and found it relaxing. The doctor prescribed Prozac and suggested I had low grade depression from prolonged stress and adrenaline. I spent the rest of the day doing things I enjoy. Today it is sunny out and that helps. He said it'd take 12 days to take effect, but I feel a bit better already feeling as though I have actually done something to get back in control of my emotions. Is there anything I should be aware of taking Prozac?

Hi there

I am flad that you went to the meeting and that things went well for you. Prozac (Sometimes called Fluoxetine for those of us who were brought up on the long names! lol) is an effective drug which has been around for a good number of years but because of this it has a bit of a stigma. Someone in my family was put on it and because of the stigma with her friends, she said it was fluoxetine and nobody was any the wiser. I dont know how the stigma is in the US though. The other thing you can get with Prozac is anxiety symptoms. (From mild stuff like dry mouth to more severe stuff like anxiety attacks) If this happens you need to see your doctor immediately. As for the time taken for effectiveness... you really are looking at 4-6 weeks for full effect. It is possible that you can get effects earlier, but more likely this is a psychological (perfectly normal) reaction to the drugs. If you have heard of the placebo effect, it is similar to that. You expect the drug to make things better, so you believe it is even when there is not enough of the drug to do anything. 4-6 weeks and you will be well on the road.

All the best

Darren

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Searching

I found some info on the drug
If the dizziness continues I would let your doctor know..I did have dizzy spells when I first started my meds,but then they went away after a couple of weeks.

www.webmd.com/drugs/search.aspx?stype=drug&query=Fluoxetine

I hope this med helps,good luck and keep us updated.

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