Your neighbor definitely has a little somethin' wrong going on. The best you can do in that situation is what you are doing, stay on guard but stay away. I wonder if she or they (she and hubby) have anything of public record you could look up at the county court house as to what kinds of things they have been involved in before. If she is following you, it might kind of freak her out to see you going to a court house. Maybe the police might know some history on them...I don't know, but it is hard to sit idly by while she is trashing you to everyone.
Getting by is right, give your other friend some space, or if when you talk to her try not to let her know what is going on with you, ask how she is doing and make it about her....she will return the favor when she feels better.
The world has become somewhat unfair, people hurt others for money, envy, or no reason at all....bad people succeed and good people fail....saddest of all is that people live in loneliness because they cannot believe that they are loved. I kind of feel sorry for the kids of this neighbor, they probably are avoided because of the way their parents are. The parents have had to have done this to others (or maybe you said they did in your other thread), anyway, your other neighbors sit idly by while she does this to you because in their thinking it is like "hey, at least it isn't me."
Maybe try getting involved in something away from home so you don't have to be around her....you like kids, maybe read to kids at the library or volunteer as a room mother at your kids' school. Anything has got to be better than letting this woman tear you down, and by ignoring her and going on with life well, there is no sweeter revenge than that!
cervical fusion 2006, with great result
L4-5 surgery with cages, plates, and screws in 2005, I have continued pain
MEDS: Fentanyl patch, Norco, Celexa, trazodone, and Parafon Forte
To handle yourself, use your head...to handle others, use your heart
I'm going to smile like nothing is wrong, act like everything is perfect, and pretend its not hurting me.