Sweetie, he should be begging for YOUR friendship, not the other way round! Trust me, if he wants "nothing from you" it's only his loss, not yours! And, you should never do something you're not at least 200% happy and comfortable with (i.e. the 3some), as if you aren't secure about
it it could cause a hella lotta damage with jealousy and so on, and leave you hurt and confused about
whether he liked you in a sexual way or leave you feeling used and generally, cr*p. Which really doesn't help.
Sorry to say this and don't take offence, but this bloke sounds like a complete waste of time for someone so intelligent as you. I mean, he agreed that you're obsessed with him, and made you wait for an answer about
the 3some.. doesn't smack of respect for you, or anyone as proved by the comment about
saying hi to your family.. And from what you said he seems a bit obsessed with himself as well.. perhaps HE needs the therapist?!
And your family does care about
you, doesn't the fact that they wanted you to do well help that? And if he doesn't care about
you, well, it should be no great loss to you!
As for the friend thing, why not use the internet to talk to them if possible? If not actually go and see them, perhaps without your parents knowing so your friends can see you're alive :P and set about
a rescue mission! OR at least, an enlightening-the-parents mission.
Hope all this may have helped, and I hope I didn't offend you by calling your ex a prat.
Mary x x x x x x x x x
Never Give Up, Never Surrender!
.. Stoma Girl ..
.. Ileostomy following Crohn's Disease, 2007 ..
.. Meds? Tried 'em all! ..
.. Time between diagnosis and operation - one year ..