Confusedgirl22

How are you doing? I wanted to check in and see how life is going?

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Hi Confused,

I was wondering about you also. Hope that you are doing well.

let us know.

love and hugs,

Karen

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Hi everyone. Thank you for your thoughts and caring about me. I am doing a little bit better. It helps to get out of the house and get my mind off things. I've decided I am going to go back to FL and give grad school there one more try. If it doesn't work out, I'm going to apply for the 2 yr physical therapy program here at home.  I went to my anatomy class today and liked it. I talked with some of my classmates which also helped get my mind away from things. Sometimes I still wonder if it's my fault my ex is treating me like this. I didn't mean to call him so much the nights I felt alone and depressed. I just missed him. I keep wondering if he'll ever talk to me again eventhough he said he would not. I think about him and my baby every day. I also think of the guy from Florida (the father of the baby). I am counting down the days until March 15 when I can tell my friends here I'm home for "spring break." That is when my parents said that I can tell my friends here I'm home. I'm just focusing on getting my self-esteem back and telling myself my ex is abusive (which is what my counselor said). Eventhough I don't think he is abusive. I think it's my fault he's been treating me like this. :-(

Hi Confused,

I am so glad that you posted.  I wish that you would quit blaming yourself for how your ex is.  By the sound of it he is an abusive person, and that is hard to change, some never do.  Once you get your self esteem back you will see that none of this is your fault.  It takes time sweetie to realize your self worth.  And it sounds like you are really trying.  Don't feel guilty about the abortion, you weren't ready for a baby.  One day you will and I am sure you will be a good mother.  And that is if you decide to.  If you don't, don't feel guilty about that either.  Just keep trying to do what you feel is right, you will one day, probably when you least expect it, find the right man for you.  One who loves and respects you for who you are.  So keep up the good work and focus on school now.  You will be okay.  We have all made mistakes in our lives, but we have to get past them learn from them and keep living.  You will be fine, I just know that.  Trust me.

Luv and hugs,

Karen

Hello Confused,

I was glad to hear you went to your class today.  That was a positive step for you. 

Please remember emotional or psychological abuse can be verbal or nonverbal. Its aim is to chip away at your feelings of self-worth and independence. If you’re the victim of emotional abuse, you may feel that it is your fault, that you deserve this and have caused it.........Wrong.  No one deserves to be abused in anyway.  You are not at fault.  The abuser is at fault.

Emotional abuse includes verbal abuse such as yelling, name-calling, blaming, and shaming. Isolation, intimidation, and controlling behavior also fall under emotional abuse. Do not let yourself get into this relationship again.

You are a wonderful and worthy person.  Let's work on that self esteem.  You can do this, I have great faith in you.  Bless you.

Kitt

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Confused,

Same here. We are here for you.

hugs karen

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  Moderator-Depression

Thank you so much. It helps so much to have support from you. I will keep you updated. I hope you all are doing well too. And if there's anything you need, I'm always here for support as well.

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