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   Posted 2/21/2008 3:21 PM (GMT -6)   
I know I am depressed, I know why I am depressed and I am on Effexor. For the past couple of days I have been weepy. Today I can't seem to control it. I have an appointment with a Psycologist in march. Can anyone suggest something to help me get in control? I don't want to be a cry-baby.

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   Posted 2/21/2008 4:29 PM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to the forum and sorry to hear of your difficulty. Without knowing about your specifics, I'd say first step would be to call whoever prescribed the Effexor and tell them about this. Please do call someone about this, if not the Doctor, maybe a local help line. As for being a cry-baby ---with all you're dealing with medically, you deserve a good cry in my book <smile>. As for worrying that others will think you're a 'cry-baby' -- what would they know of what your reality is... -- it's not important, really in the bigger context of all your medical problems. As for here, we're not afraid to cry in front of each other -- 'tis a caring group here in my experience so,again, welcome,and hope you talk to your doc about this.
[2}Dx: Post Spinal Fusion chronic pain since 1984;Polyneuropathy;Meniere's Disease, Left ear deafness & severe tinnitus on both sides, Left; Intmt Anhedonic depression;

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   Posted 2/21/2008 4:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Eviltang,

Right now it is such a hard time of the year. I don't know where you are but I went through the same thing. I kept crying and didn't knkow why. But this time of the year brings back memories for me, good and bad.

As was said above maybe you should call the doctor. I take effexor too(375mg a day). And I still was having a crying jag. It went away, but it doesn't take much for it to come back. Be patient with yourself, crying is healthy. It takes all the bad emotions out of you and is cleansing.

Also as said above, we don't know much about your situation so feel free to vent if you need to. We are here to help eachother.

fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies

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   Posted 2/21/2008 4:58 PM (GMT -6)   

i dont know too much in depth about anti-depressants, but how long have you been on effexor? understand that it's perfectly ok to cry. i dont mean to sound hypocritical because i fear crying in front of people, but in the back of my mind at the same time i know it's ok. what have your thoughts been that are making you feel extra-weepy? like getting by said, feel free to vent. keep us updated and take care
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   Posted 2/22/2008 1:00 AM (GMT -6)   
I think I am depressed because of my health and how much I have lost because of it. I lost my business, my independence, my dignaty, my looks and my purpose. I feel so lost and alone. I have been on effexor for the past 3 years. I am taking 300mg a day. I am also on so many other drugs it is rediculos. I am 42yrs old, married for 22yrs and I have two children. My son is away at college and my daughter is a sophmore in high shcool, runs track, plays basketball, works at Mc Donald's and is on the honor roll. Needless to say I am home alone ALOT!!! It is difficult for me to get around as I am on oxygen. It also doesn't help that I am in constant pain, short of breath and dizzy all the time.
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   Posted 2/21/2008 8:28 PM (GMT -6)   
Eviltang - I'd like to invite you over to the chronic pain forum as well as welcome you here. I too suffer from chronic pain. I do not have the numerous other medical problems you have, but I have my share. I am 40 years old and have lived this "pain" life for the past 8 years at least. My husband and I have been together 19 years and have 3 children, one is mine from a previous relationship, and she is almost 23. We have 2 sons, one is almost 19, lives at home but hardly see him between work and friends. The other is 16 and a sophomore in high school, also on the honor roll. I work from home and leave the house only once a week to go get groceries for the growing boys! So, I do know almost exactly where you are coming from.

I, too, suffer from depression. It has hit me the worst when I realize that this is it, this is my life...I am always hurting and have to wear a patch and take pills for the rest of my life so I do not hurt as bad...That's it, I can't walk normally or bend down to pick up my grandchild....It's all very depressing.

Please, feel free to email me (email is in my profile if you click on the envelope under my name). Please, feel free to join us on the chronic pain forum too....We definitely all understand and that is what has helped me to claw my way out of my depression at times.
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L4-5 surgery with cages, plates, and screws in 2005
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   Posted 3/1/2008 10:39 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey Christy,
You are not being a cry baby, not at all. Sometimes tears come and they cant stop until your dried out, thats just how they work, normally it comes from keeping them and other things locked up for soo long. Is there anyway you could do something that would cheer you up? Do something you enjoy? Maybe bake a cake, call a friend, watch ur favourite movie (preferably a comedy), or maybe calling up a friend or family member? If none of this helps, maybe u need to vent, if things are too personal try writing yourself a letter, or if your upset with someone, right it to them and remember you dont have to send it:) I hope your feeling better soon, take care :-)
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   Posted 3/1/2008 7:56 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi Christy,

Just wanted to check in and see how you  are doing.  I use to have a floral shop and plant nursery and I lost it because I got fibromyalgia.  I went around feeling worthless for a long time.  I was also suffering from depression.  I am still dealing with both but not as bad as I was when I first got fibromyalgia.  But I know how it is to feel completely worthless.  In fact ironically I just got a summons for a creditcard debt from 5 years ago.  I was totally shocked, they had left me alone for about a year now.  Now of course they want twice as much as I owe.  But I can't pay it and I am not going to worry about it.  Sounds like I am using your post to vent, sorry.  But even with this hanging over me I am not going to let it get me down.  We have to grasp for whatever we can to make us feel worthwhile even if it is something simple and little as much as writing a shopping list.  Try to have pride in everything you do, no matter how small it feels to you it is still worthwhile.  And you are still worthwhile, we just have to slow down to the pace that our bodies will go.  And it is kind of like starting over, but there are still so many wonderful things that we can enjoy.  Just keep your chin up and be patient with yourself.

hugs,  Karen

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   Posted 3/1/2008 8:23 PM (GMT -6)   

I go thru the crying stage at least once a month..I wonder where all of tears come from,I wonder if it is because I hold it in so much...

I hate crying and feel so stupid when I can't stop...I almost wonder if it is part of being a woman..

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