I know how much BabyT loves you and your daughter. I think that her opening up to you allowed you to let her in a little bit. Now, it is all out on the table and will be easier to sort things through. From past experience, she will run the gauntlet of emotions, but underneath it all, know that she still loves you. One day may be good and then the next 3 bad, or even minute to minute, but you need to allow her to sort through this AND be completely honest when she asks you a question seemingly out of nowhere. The trust is going to have to be repaired. I do highly recommend couple's counseling/marriage counseling (even if you aren't married you are still in this together). I don't know if your employer has an emergency assistance program available, but you would qualify if they do. Your employer won't know who uses it only the number of people who do so it can be paid for. They usually allow a certain number of visits, maybe 10-15, but at least it can get you started.
Give her space as she works through this and be there for her....like the song goes "Hold on loosely, but don't let go."
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