Thanks Karen. I am very sensitive. So is my mom (but not about
this issue of telling people). I'm so confused. I hate disappointing my parents. I already did by getting pregnant and failing one class in grad school. I told my dad I wanted to go to my friend's bday party (who lives 2 hrs away). She invited me. And my dad flipped out. He said what happens if you get in an accident and you're on the news? People will know you're not in grad school anymore. I started crying and said "oh so you don't care if I get hurt, you just care about
what other people think." And my dad got upset and said no and stormed out the door. I hate disappointing them, but I'm just so sick of this. I just got back from the counselor and he told me my parents are supporting me with strings attached and it's not healthy. I told my dad what the counselor said and he got so angry. He told me not to believe what the counselor says. My counselor said I should be able to talk with friends
openly and be able to go out with them. He said they can help for support. He also said I should be able to go see my friend for her bday on Saturday. I hope I can. He told me 2 of my friends from FL who don't talk to me anymore are shallow, and they aren't true friends if they are not there for me. Do you think my counselor is right? He also said next time my parents tell me if that I can't tell a friend that I'm home because of "our reputation" I should ask my dad, "will you have less patients coming to you if they knew I was home?" Will mom have less students coming to her classes? My dad's a doctor and has high expectations of me. His reputation means the world to him and my mom. In 2 weeks my dad's Greek friend is coming to paint our house and during those 2 weeks, during the day he wants me going to my grandma's house so the Greek painter doesn't tell the whole Greek community I'm home. My counselor thinks that is ridiculous and disrespectful to me. My dad's cousin from NJ is also thinking about
coming to visit for 2 days in a few weeks. My dad told me during that time, I need to stay at my grandma's during the day so the cousin doesn't tell everyone from the village my dad grew up in and in the Greek community I failed a class in grad school (eventhough my dad failed a class in med school). My counselor thinks it's very disrespectful. Do you agree?
Post Edited (confusedgirl22) : 2/25/2008 12:55:07 PM (GMT-7)