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   Posted 2/24/2008 6:40 PM (GMT -6)   
just when i thought i was doing better i slipped and sent my x a email no matter what i doi cant stop thinking about her. i knowppl say it gets easier but for me it is getting harder i dont know what to do.
plz help me
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   Posted 2/24/2008 7:19 PM (GMT -6)   
Scotty, that is okay... now just wait and see what she does with the email. If she is rude to you in her response or doesn't respond at all then you will know you need to move on.
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   Posted 2/24/2008 8:50 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Scotty,

You slipped huh? Well don't beat yourself up over it. We all do. Like Mochiah says wait and see what her response is. Then you will have an idea where things do stand. We just hate to see you get hurt again. It is no crime to put some feelers out and see what is going on in her heart. But don't be bummed if you don't get the reaction that you want, things will get easier with time.

Good luck
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   Posted 2/25/2008 11:02 AM (GMT -6)   

Hey Scotty,
I have been the exgirlfriend and I know how hard it is to stay away from someone you trusted and felt you loved.  You feel so sad and yet you feel anger that they have left you. 

I found that I had to let go of the anger and that I also had to let go of the person,  they did not choose to stay with me and I could not control that.  All the phone calls or letters just made me feel worse and the other person think of me as pathetic.  So in the end, I did move on as I finally realized he was not hurting me,  I was causing my own pain by hanging on to a dream that was gone.

Be happy in your self and your own life and concentrate on the things you enjoy away from the ex. Avoid being around her and perhaps it is time to lose her email.

IMHO I feel perhaps it  would be better for you to pull away now and call it a day with her. Show that you have true value, you are better than this, tell yourself that, walk away, don't run after her  because that my new friend will push her further and further away and make you feel a thousand times more hurt and confused.
I am here for you along with the other members of this great forum.  Keep talking to us.  We do not judge.


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   Posted 2/26/2008 6:47 AM (GMT -6)   

Don't worry about it, if anything you can use it to tell her how badly she hurt you and then maybe just getting the words out will make you feel better.

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