Posted 2/27/2008 6:40 PM (GMT -6)
It doesn't sound like you can do anything to please your daughter, you can't help that. I think that it is her problem, not yours. If she is going to act that way, maybe it would be better if you did leave her alone for a while. You don't deserve that kind of treatment.

hugs,
Karen
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Posted 2/28/2008 7:54 AM (GMT -6)
Thanks everyone. By happen stance we had contact with my daughter last evening. It was a complete eye opener. I now know she is very conflicted because her BF " can't stand us." That she is so "emotionally distraught" that she can't "Deal with it". And feels alone without her family. Add it all up and Karen said it best, leaving her alone is best. She is in the very least confused and none of us deserve to be on the recieving end of her anger and abusive rants. It was at that moment last night after reading Karens thread that I really came to realize that nothing I do is going to change a thing. My daughter has made choices which are very hurtful to all of us, but to have her say in on breath how she is an adult and in the next say "do you know how hurtful it is to a child to have your dad say that to you." We have told her we will speak to her but not if she is being rude or nasty.
He told her he was hanging up due to her screaming and carring on. Point is , she's old enough to get married, she's old enough to accept responsiblilty for her actions. She then spoke to me, did much of the same and hung up on me. I can't help when she won't help herself.

Thanks again to everyone.

julia
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Posted 2/28/2008 8:22 AM (GMT -6)
Julia

It is so hard when your children act like this.. I have been through so many situations with my kids... and you just want to scream and shake them.

I wish she would understand that if she is already having so much stress now before she is married,that it will probably just get worse after they are married.

At some point all you can do is let her learn..I know it is hard,and it breaks your heart but what else can you do.

Stay strong
Shy


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