I lost my husband unexpectedly 19 months ago. He died the day before our 30 wedding anniversary from unknown causes while we were on vacation. I understand the "inertia" you are experiencing. The inability to make decisions, no matter how small, is one of the ways we cope with our reality. If we don't face what needs to be done, then this really awful, tragic event didn't happen in our lives.
Valerie, the very best thing I did was join a bereavement group. All the members were about
my age and had lost their spouses. We would discuss our feelings, some would cry; we shared the memories of our dearly departed spouses and would all cry together; we talked about
the day to day struggles we each faced and commiserated and vented and eventually could laugh.
In our community, the group I joined was run by a counselor through the funeral home I used. There are several other offerings in my community also...none charge a fee. Some groups meet in the day but the majority were evening meetings to accomodate those still having to work.
Valerie, please feel free to email me if you feel the need to "talk." I so recall being where you are - it just sucks.
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