I'll add my two copper pennies about
the sex thing....I know guys are all about
the act.... women, not so much. We want the connection in little ways, for everything to feel like it has a deeper meaning, the hugs, the holding hands, ask about
the day, the walks, *the foot rub was excellent*, etc.....to be made to feel like we are the absolute only one in your world at that very moment. Then, that leads to more. One month without could be a drop in the bucket if you were having problems before....she needs to feel like things are being repaired. You say that she wants you to prove you can take care of yourself, does this mean maybe she was taking care of all the little things, maybe writing the checks, feeding the animals, picking up things for the house, taking phone calls....I guess I'm not sure exactly what it means, but if you don't know, you need to find a way to ask her... But to me, with her contacting you and her making the move to come over and ask you if she could go to the funeral, it sounds like you are doing something right. She is showing you in HER little ways that she wants to be with YOU.....maybe she is also showing you the way it is she would like to be treated?
edited to add: I thought of the perfect song, but I need to go find what the name of it is and who it is by....it is a country-ish song where the guy is telling the girl that he wants to know everything about her, he wants to drive down all the country roads she drove while growing up, wants to know all her secrets, wants to know everything there is to know about her. I'll see if I can find it and get back atcha.