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   Posted 3/12/2008 8:14 PM (GMT -6)   
I've been in therapy for almost a year...and i love my counselor so much. i feel a little weird at times though because in all the times i've been in the office i have not yet cried once. i feel like i want to but i always get scared and stop myself because i get embarrassed crying in front of people. is this weird? i dont want my counselor to get the impression that im not honest/sincere or whatever because if i was really feeling all these emotions we talk about...then i would have cried by now. is this weird?
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   Posted 3/12/2008 8:30 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Bte,

I have the same problem, I don't like showing emotions in front of people because then I feel vulnerable. I think that we learn to keep our emotions under lock and key when we are young so that we can protect ourselves that way. It becomes a learned response. But I think when we can cry, be it alone or in front of our counselor, that it is a release. And we need that, so if you can cry in front of your counselor do it, if not that is okay too. But if you can let it out when you are alone, it is so cleansing. It is healthy to cry. But if you can't, there is nothing wierd about it.

I hope that this helps

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   Posted 3/12/2008 9:22 PM (GMT -6)   

Its not weird, I have been having the same problem. I have heard how some people go and just cry their eyes out the whole time and I have not but had a tear or two run down my cheek. I was thinking that something was wrong with me. It made me feel that maybe my counselor was getting frustrated with me but that is not the case.

They see so many different individuals and for different reasons we all process things in different ways. They expect that. I started to shed a couple tears the other day in my counselors office because she aksed me just to relax, I am often tense in there, when I relaxed it was a little easier but when a couple tears fell, I just stopped, I have not been able to let it all out, not that I don't want to. As I shed a few tears , she said you were really never able to do this with people were you, I said no, that I never do. Its always when I am alone in my room. I told her I felt stupid starting to cry infront of her, she assured me that I was not stupid:)

I told her that I know I am difficult and sometimes as feel like I am being a brat because I have not been totally open at this point. They expect this, its not new to them, so whatever you do, don't be afraid. Its all a part of learning to trust and it can take time.

I verbalized to my counselor the other day that it is not her personally, but its me. She said she knows its not her that she realizes I am probably still not feeling totally secure with her at this point and thats fine. Thats what they are there to work on too.

Just hang in there, if you feel you want to take that risk even if its just a tear or two don't be afraid.

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