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Posted 3/13/2008 8:29 AM (GMT -7)
Hi everyone!!! I'm new here, on this forum!!!

My problem is my courage.. I have a girlfriend and I love her very very much, but a few weeks ago she has tell me that she was sleeping with some other boyredface , she tels me that she was drunk and that she still loves me too. I have try to forget that but I can't, just pain deep inside me don't let me to do this... I don't know, how to brake this agony, I wont to forget, but I can't. I don't have any courage to live with that...

Did anybody know what can I do to go away from this depression??? Thanks for help!!!!
Posted 3/13/2008 8:48 AM (GMT -7)
Hi Konstelin,

Maybe you need to seperate yourself from her until you can make a decision whether to stay with her or not. If you can't get it out of your mind, you will not be able to have a successful relationship with her. Atleast until you have closure with the situation at hand. Maybe you should take a break and see how that feels.

I hope that this helps, i am sure that somebody else will come along with a better response.

Good luck with this

Karen
Posted 3/13/2008 9:04 AM (GMT -7)
I don't know, you maybe have right when you tell that we should take brake, but I'm study musicology, where students must work 10-12 hours per day... This thing killing me now, and I can't do anything! And I don't know how I would fell when we broke.... My question is: Did anybody know something about antidepressant medicals, and how it works?
Posted 3/13/2008 9:11 AM (GMT -7)
Is there somebody that you could talk to like a counselor? Maybe a school counselor could help you. You really need to be able to focus on your musicology. That is something that will be with you forever and you need to be able to give it your all. Talk to somebody. There are many different medications that you can be prescribed by a doctor. They will know what is right for you.

I reallly wish you good luck with this. Your studies are most imortant right now. So please try to focus on that. Keep posting, we will try to help you in any way that we can.

hugs, Karen
Posted 3/13/2008 1:12 PM (GMT -7)
There are many antidepressants out there and in conjuction with them there are several self help techniques .....Check in yellow at the side in Resources or go thru older posts to see if something may help you.....and yes only a Doctor can tell you what meds to try and some of them do work very well while some dont agree and you have to keep trying .....

When you are hurt like this or actually betrayed by someone you love so much it is very hard to forget and live with .......I really hope that this can be worked out and you will find some peace of mind in all of it .
You did nothing wrong........you need to remember that IMHO

Take care and good luck with your musicology.....LYN
Posted 3/14/2008 11:16 AM (GMT -7)

konstelin

Welcome to HealingWell.  I am so sorry you are going through this tough time.  I agree to check out the resources on the right as well as read through the threads as we have had other members with the same issues as yours.

A break would be good, give both of you some time to think about where you are going from here.  Medications can be very beneficial so think about seeing your PCP.

Keep posting.
Kitt

Posted 3/14/2008 9:15 PM (GMT -7)
You need to talk to someone about this. I have just recently went through almost the same thing last month. But because of past relationships and the same thing happening I knew the signs and kept b/f from cheating on me. But the trust is never the same.

Try to see if you two can go through counsling together.

Medication can help numb you but it won't help you work through what went on.

Roni
Posted 3/14/2008 9:28 PM (GMT -7)
Konstelin,

You asked how the medications work...if you are suffering from clinical depression there are good medications that can help. That is the type of depression where there is a chemical imbalance in the brain. The medication help to balance out the hormones again so you feel like yourself again. They do not give you a 'high' at all.

But if you're profoundly sad, like what might happen with your situation, an antidepressant probably won't be recommended. I understand your feelings. I had it happen after being married for 20 years. You need time and distance to be able to even try to work through this. I also agree that counseling might help if you are not able to function.

Keep us posted,
CHutz
Posted 3/17/2008 8:37 AM (GMT -7)
Thanks four your patience and hints!!! I have decided, I braked this relationship for now, I need time to think about everything, because I can't understand her... Why she do it? I gave my best for that love... And she was good for me, she is always here when I need her. She is so tender, she gives me very much love, i feel that... This is the reason because I don't understand her... WHY?!

I must work and concentrate on my study now, and think about myself... Maybe I need 2 or 3 mounts of more to forget this. If is truth that she loves me much like she sad, she will wait for me...
Posted 3/17/2008 12:48 PM (GMT -7)
your right you need to work on you first. And if she truly loves you she will be there again when you really need her and she'll be faithful to you.

Roni
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