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   Posted 3/15/2008 10:11 AM (GMT -6)   

I found this site yesterday and i have to say that it did help me reading other peoples problem, yesterday i honestly think i was suicidal. I have been dianosed with manic depression and right now i am having problems with my husband of 30 years. He doesn't understand my illness or don't want to. I was locked down for 10 days to find meds that would help me but now i have no insurance so i can't afford the meds i need. The thing that has brought me so low, i found out that my husband talks to someone 5-6 times a day, usual before he goes to work and then after he gets off, i confronted him with it and he won't tell me who, he tells me he can have a friend that i don't have to know about, how can i trust him and how do i get out of this funk.


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All I have done is changed the case of your post from BLOCK CAPS to Sentence case. We ask people not to post in block caps as it is bad internet etiquette and some people consider it rude. For a full list of forum rules: Darren

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   Posted 3/15/2008 10:39 AM (GMT -6)   

Hi Jasmine,

First of all welcome to the depression forum, we will help you in any way we can.

Secondly, I have to ask you from now on please don't post in all capitals, it is hard to read and people think that you are shouting.  So if you can, use the regular printing.  Thank you.

Thirdly, your husband shouldn't be talking to somebody else and shouldn't be telling you that it is none of your business.  I am sure he wouldn't like it if you did that to him.  Try not to dwell on it though, that will only make you more depressed. 

There are programs for people with no insurance, I would suggest you contact Social Services and find out if you qualify for any help.  You should be able to get help with doctors visits and with your medications. 

For now try some deep breathing to relax, no matter what is going on around you, you have to try to relax.  You can't control a lot of the circumstances but you can control how you react.  So first of all try to get some help with meds and dr appts.  Then get some counseling to help you deal with the rest.  I do think that your husband is wrong for keeping secrets, but that should be the least of your worries right now because you have to take care of you.  So try to put that out of your mind and do some things to make yourself feel better.  You are a special person and you deserve to feel good.  Maybe we can find some resources for you to find some help with the meds and the appts.  Also some doctors can give out samples of the meds that could get you through until you can get some other help.  I would talk to them about it.

I hope that this helps some, keep posting, we are here for you.

Luv and hugs,  Karen

fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies

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   Posted 3/15/2008 10:56 AM (GMT -6)   
I apoligize, i wasn't aware about writing in capital letters, I said I was new here so I have learned 1 thing already, thank you for your up lifting words and I know what you said is true but it is still hard, my husband has always been first in my life and I thought visa versa so it's hard to swallow that someone can come between us, once again thank you.

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   Posted 3/15/2008 11:33 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Jasmine. I didn't think that you realize that you were writing in caps. That is okay. It is just that it is harder to read. I didn't think that you were shouting. Though it would be tempting under your circumstances. Do you happen to know who he is talking to? Is there a chance that it is completely innocent. I am always one to give the benefit of a doubt. But I also don't like to face things like that. I hope that he will open up to you and that it is something other than what is suspected. But I still think that if the shoe were on the other foot so to speak, that he would be angry at you. It isn't fair. I hope that you can get some help with some of your meds. I know that get some help with the manic depression, I know that it is hard to deal with, emotions are all over the place. Being it is the weekend we have less people on here, but hang on if you can, there will be some resources for you soon. As soon as I get a chance, I will see what I can find out for you. Like I say there is Social Services, they can often help you in a situation like this. Here it is called Human Resources. I don't know what it is called where you are, but there is help.

I hope that you can relax and get through this, I am here for you.

Luv and hugs, Karen
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies

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   Posted 3/15/2008 12:34 PM (GMT -6)   
Jasmine welcome.

What you are going through is very hard but Karen is right first off you have to get the meds. that you need.

is your husband related to my b/f? LOL Went through this last month. But you do have to take of number 1 frist and foremost.
Like I've been told a few times men are fixers and we are hurting they don't know how to help us and they get scared. We are the healers we try to heal everyone and make them well. We've always been told guys are the stronger sex so why is it that when we get sick they get weak and have to try to fix themselves instead of helping us heal they make things worst.

Sorry guys I just know what I"ve been through.
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   Posted 3/15/2008 12:50 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Jasmine.

I looked on internet and did find something that might help you.
type in freemed resources and it will give you some help on how to get free medical help.

I hope that this helps you.
hugs, Karen
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies

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   Posted 3/15/2008 4:24 PM (GMT -6)   
I am so sorry you are going thru this
I do want to welcome you to HW and let you know you are not ever alone again.........
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   Posted 3/16/2008 8:31 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Susie

First of all welcome to the forum,we are very glad that you found us.

Do you have a State run hospital where you live? Most of them have financial programs where you can get your meds at a very low price or sometimes free.

Also,Walmart now has the $4 Generic Med program.. I would contact both of those places and see if you can get help with your meds.

As far as your husband...when someone does not have depression it is harder for them to understand it.
Maybe you could find some literature about it and leave it around the house. Or,have him go to the doctor with you and before your appt. contact the doctor and ask them to explain what is going on to him.

Please keep us posted on how you are doing.

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   Posted 3/16/2008 1:18 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi there,

You have already been given some great advice regarding the meds issue. As for your husband, as Shy has mentioned, it is difficult for someone who has no experience of a disease/disorder to understand sometimes. I think the fact that he is talking to someone is a good thing because it means he is not allowing the feelings to be bottled up and fester. I guess the question is whether you trust your b/f to only be talking.


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