First of all welcome to the forum.
I am going to give a different opinion on this matter than what you have been given..
What your husband is doing is emotional abuse simple as that.
I do agree that you need to get some type of help, going to counseling would be a good start,but it is not just you that needs to go,he needs to get help too. This is a cycle,..think back to when you are with his family,do they do that to each other? Have you seen or heard about
him doing that to someone else?
Please watch out for yourself and your child,it is not acceptable to talk to a 10 month old like that.
Is he alone with your daughter? If so,I would consider making sure he is not. If he questions you why,simply explain that you are worried about
the harsh words turning into something more.
Here is some info I found awhile ago,that really makes you stop and think about