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   Posted 4/17/2008 5:42 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey there,
New to this forum.
I;m very scared and struggling daily wit severe depression and anxiety. Anyone says pull out of it, I'm having a very difficult time and fear I may lose my wife and home if I don't snap out it.
Doctor has me on 60 mg of Paxil which has helped me for 8 plus years and lamotrigne 75mg to complement. I have extreme difficulty just getting out of bed. My fear is that I eventually will not want to get out of bed. My wife has had it
Anyone out there?

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   Posted 4/17/2008 6:49 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey Todd,

It sounds like you might need an increase in medication or a change. Have you talked to your doctor about this?

I am happy that you have come to healing well. There are a lot of kind and compassionate people here who can understand how you feel.

Keep posting

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   Posted 4/17/2008 7:39 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey Todd,

Depression is a hard thing to get through. You can't just pull out of it. It takes a really long time to get out of it, and even then some of it is still there. I'm guessing you wife knows that you are depressed right? Have you tried to go to some sort of counseling together? Maybe you guys could work things out there.

To me, right now, depression is just something that you're going to have to live with untill you defeat it. I don't know how, but sooner or later, you'll find a way.

~"When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us." ~Helen Keller

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   Posted 4/17/2008 10:40 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi Todd..

Sounds like you are going thru a rough patch just now..Just thinking that 8 years on the same meds is a long time - could be time to go back to the doc. and have them reviewed...

I can relate to your feelings about mornings when you are feeling low...ghastly times..but there is light at the end of the tunnel and we do get well as you know :)

Time has come for action..once your wife can see that you are willing to go to the doc. and get some help she will help you I am sure..esp. if as you say she has been thru it too..

I wish you well..keep us posted.



 'Raindrops on roses..'

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   Posted 4/17/2008 11:35 PM (GMT -6)   

"raindrops on roses" I really like that concept. It makes me feel like a summer shower. I can visualize the raindrops hitting the roses. Thank you for that thought. It was nice.

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   Posted 4/18/2008 4:26 AM (GMT -6)   

Hi there Todd and Welcome to HealingWell,

I am so glad thatyou have found us and I really hope that you find all the love and support you need here. We are like one big family here and we all support each other. You may find that by helping to support someone else, you can help yourself in the process.

I too think that you might benifit from an increase in meds but also from some form of therapy (possibly something that includes your wife as well). Please keep posting and talking to us and more importantly, talk to your wife about how you feel. Make her feel like she is being incuded rather than being shut out.


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   Posted 4/18/2008 6:28 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Todd

I too wanted to welcome you to the forum,as I am sure you can already see,there are alot of great people on this site.

I agree with the advice that you have been given,an increase in meds is probably your best option.

I too was on Paxil for a few years,and I too had to have a change in meds... it just didn't work after awhile.

That is normal as I think our bodies get used to the meds so therefore they are not as effective...
Please make that call today...

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Please remember,I am not a professional..I am just a person who is also fighting depression.

New Member

Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 4/18/2008 8:07 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey Todd,
Im glad you found the site. I don't usually come on here unless I'm really down. I like to read everyone else's posts, sometimes it makes me feel better about my situation. I have been depressed for years now, since graduating high school. Anyways, there are a lot of people on here that are kind and will make you feel better. I really hope everything works out for you. And I think that your wife will understand. Maybe just have a serious talk with her about how you are feeling.
Good luck friend!

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   Posted 4/19/2008 1:45 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey Todd,
You have come to the right place for support.  I think you have been given a lot of good advice.  I also think you need to go back to your doctor and let him/her know that what you are taking is just not working any more.
I also think you need to let your wife know how desperate you feel and that you need her support now more than ever and see if she will consider going to counseling with you.  She probably has no way of knowing how you feel inside and I think counseling would help and it would also show her that you are sincerely trying too move forward.
I wish you the best.  Please stay in touch and let us know how you are doing.  You are a part of our family now.
Big Hugs!

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