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   Posted 4/22/2008 12:55 PM (GMT -6)   
I am currently having a rough time.  I am going through stuff which i do not understand.  I will give my story.  I few days I was talking to my parents on the phone and we were talking anout my sister coming home.  I live in Maryland, sister in Florida and family in PA.  Well anyways, My sister is PA from yesterday till Friday.  I have not seen my sister in about 1 1/2 years we may not talk a lot but i still would like to see her.  So asked my parents if it is ok if i came up thursday night to say hi.  I was pretty much told no, brcause this is my sister's time and that i should understand.  Then i was told that they just say me in the beginning of March, my parents came down here because i was sick and I was in the hospital with an infection.  I really did not spend time with them when they were here, because I was so filled up with meds..  Then i was also told that I lived in PA for a 1 1/2 last year I moved to Maryland in October.  I did not live with my parents at this time either and i did not see them everyday when I lived There.  what gets me is they say those things to me when Years ago my sister lived in PA and lived far away.  Same thing but there was years difference.  And a couple years ago when a hurricane hit florida where my sister lives my parents went down for two weeks.  I am not saying that they do not love me, I know they do, but why do I feel like I am the second born and the 2nd one to be loved.  Please help I really need advice, my husband is no help what so ever( that is a whole other issue in itself). 

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   Posted 4/22/2008 2:38 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey Bug,

If you want to see your sister, then I think that you should. Does she want to see you? Is there any way she can see the both of you? I don't understand why your parents wouldn't want you there. It sounds like they are instigating some anamosity between the two of you. Or at least trying to. I think that you will see eachother one way or another. So work something out with her.

Hugs, Karen

I forgot to welcome you to the forum Bugaboo.  I think that you will like it here.  There are a lot of cool people here and there is a lot of support.

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   Posted 4/22/2008 4:23 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there Bug and Welcome to HealingWell,
I am glad that you have found us and as Karen has already said, I think you will like it here since we are like one big family and we help and support each other.
I agree with Karen with regard to seeing your sister. If you want to see her and she wants to see you, I dont see what is wrong with going and seeing her on Thurs. I think that it is bad that you parents still control what you do to that degree but that is just a personal opinion. I would definately talk to your sister about this though.

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   Posted 4/23/2008 6:10 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Bug

I too wanted to welcome you to the forum!

Sometimes parents can be just weird, I still get that with my mom and I know I myself can be a little out of whack at times.

I agree with the advice that you have been given... what if you called your sister and arranged to have dinner just the two of you?

Then you can voice your concerns with her,and then maybe in the future she can put her foot down with your parents and tell then she wants everyone together...

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