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   Posted 4/26/2008 8:39 PM (GMT -6)   
Tennisdoc09: I read your response on unseen's post and i decided i shoul dprobably move this to my own tread to leave unseen with her's :) Thanks for all the great support. However, i'm still extremely hesitant on talking to one of my teachers/ counselors. I want to tell all of my teachers, because then they'll all know and they will.... "go easier on me?". I don;t know The letter sounds great but i don;t think i'll ever have the guts to do it. I tried to talk to my teachers on friday, but somehow i just couldn't find the right time to start talking. I WANTED to talk to them sooo badly, to let it all out, but in each class, another person would come in and i'd loose my chance. I just don't know how to get it all started. I WANT to tell somebody SOO badly!!! But i'm too stupid to do it. I hate myself because of that. Why can't i just DO IT? It's frustrating. I need someone to talk to so badly, and yet i don't get go get help...
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   Posted 4/26/2008 9:14 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Froggy,

Try to relax, you will get a chance to talk to somebody. The right time will come and you will be ready. Just keep trying. Next time be the first one in line to talk to them. Even if you have to hand them a letter. You CAN do this. I know that you can.

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   Posted 4/26/2008 10:17 PM (GMT -6)   
Ok, I understand completely. To be honest, when I was trying to tell someone, I thought I NEVER would. I didnt like the idea of a letter or anything. I was afraid to just come out and say it myself. I couldnt even say the words. But, then something really bad happened to me, so I wrote down what what I thought. I just went in and gave it to my counselor. It sounds hard, but it wasnt as bad as I made it out to be. And I dont want anything bad to happen to you... I know its hard. It is in the beginning. And relaxing isnt easy, I know. I thought I was so ready to tell her everything and I WANTED to so bad! I didnt though... And I wish I had when I had the chance.

You are NOT stupid. I totally understand what you are going through. Whether you think that honestly or not. I do. I had the very same thoughts and feelings. I had a few times where I would start to talk and then get interrupted. It made me angry... but, I also felt it saved me some too.. even though I really wanted to speak up. I know how frustrating it is. I hated myself also. I hated that I couldnt just say it. I didnt understand why it was so hard.

But, at the time, it is hard. It seems like a simple task, but it really isnt. Its a huge thing. And you CAN do it. You will find your way. My letter was just a way to start things off so that I didnt have to start the conversation! The letter was the easiest way for me. I am actually really glad I did it. I was in shock actually. I handed it to her and practically ran out of her office as fast as possible... and then I felt stupid for even doing it. BUT... IT WORKED. I didnt say anything to her for a while when I would go to her office. Just yes or no.... I was still in shock and freaked out.

But, everything was ok and I wish now that I had seen that then. Sometimes its hard to see things while you are in them. But, I know it will get better for you once you get help. You will see. You will find a way to talk to someone. I learned to be patient the hard way, so trust me when I say be patient with yourself. Dont try to push it. You will tell someone when the time is right. I know you want to very badly and it seems the time is right but, you will see when the time is really right. I did. And I am very proud of myself for telling someone. And my counselor is proud of me for telling her! Everyone was proud when I told! lol But, you are not a failure because you havent told anyone YET.

You will find the way. Dont be so hard on yourself. I know how you feel. Your post is probably almost identical to many of my posts! But, it gets better in time.... take care.

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   Posted 4/27/2008 4:48 AM (GMT -6)   

Hi froggy,

I think Tennis has given you some really great advice. Sometimes writing things down is much easier than trying to say them. I think its important to remember that you are not stupid (As Tennis has said) and I have complete faith in the fact that you can do this. All you need to do is have a little self-belief and I think the rest will fall into place.


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