Hi there, this is Kitt and I am right here. You have been going through so much and I know how it wears you down. You have been doing the very best you can and now your feeling like why and what the heck for. It feels to you like for all the good you have done no one given a darn...............remember this is not your disease but your husbands.
Do not accept responsibilities for anyone elses feelings. Your husband has to come to terms with his demons and his anger and projecting it on you is not fair.
Your job is to remember you are a good, kind and caring person. If he is difficult with you please tell him you are sorry he feels the way he does but your are doing what you feel is best. Attempt not to get baited into any arguments with him as he may be trying to manipulate you.
AS for the so called friend, they own their own problems and if this is how they want to act toward you then they were never really true friends.
Take a good, hard look at these friends. Do you genuinely need them in your life right now? There is a difference between a good friend and a toxic friend. You need not rely upon others to judge whether your actions are proper or correct. These "friends" may disagree or disapprove but you have the option to disregard their preferences or to workout a compromise.
Remember we are here for you and sending you bushels of hugs and barrels of support and prayers.
"The strength of the heart comes from the soundness of the faith"