Right now, all I can do is give him the opportunity to prove that he can stay clean. I have given some thought as to "Plan B". My son already knows that if his father relapses, I can't stay with him. I hope I don't have to cross that bridge.
I have to say I definitely agree with giving the responsibility back to your husband. Good move. (Although I know the gut-wrenching knot that will put in your stomach) but it is something that needs to be done so you can deal with your own emotions and "demons."
I'm glad your son knows that if hubby relapses you can't stay with him....and it is also good that hubby knows so all cards are out on the table.
As you already know, I think your son should open up to dad. He can let him know how his use has affected him and be dad's co-higher power! I know you and your son have a wonderful relationship and great communication, so the only caution I want to give with this advice of talking with dad is that he knows it is not HIS responsibility to keep dad clean either.....and it isn't his fault if "plan B" is forced into action.
Luv ya. Sue
cervical fusion 2006
L4-5 surgery with cages, plates, and screws in 2005
MEDS: Fentanyl patch, Norco, Celexa, trazodone, and Flexeril
To handle yourself, use your head...to handle others, use your heart
I'm going to smile like nothing is wrong, act like everything is perfect, and pretend its not hurting me.