This may sound strange to you but my yongest son lives onlly 20 miles from us and he has a 4 her old princess............my youngest grandchild. I learned along time ago that no way would I ever tick off my daughter-in-law. She is a good daughter-in-law but not the kind to want to hang out with her Mother-in-law. I want to keep peace in the family always so I accept her the way she is and know my son loves her dearly.
They say your daughter is your daughter for the rest of your life but your son is you son until he takes a wife. Whoever thought up that one was a wise person.
I know when I am going through a tough time unless it is a matter of life and death not to call my son to come and sit with me. I use my other coping mechanisms.
I am so sorry your having a bad time.