Oh man, I have this same problem!!
My boyfriend was with this girl for three years and then she dumped him and he moved to Florida where he met me. We started dating a few months later, and after about
6 months moved back to Iowa. I was always SOOO scared that we would run into her, even though she no longer lived in that town, and I worried constantly. He has a thing full of pictures and he saved their prom pictures and one day I found a CD full of pictures of her, and it made me so ridiculously jealous. All I could think was "What if he's still in love with her? What if she was a better girlfriend than me and he wishes I was more like her? What if they run into each other and get back together and he leaves me?" It was all so irrational considering she was not a good girlfriend, cheated on him multiple times, acted like she was so much smarter than everyone and made him feel stupid but still...
Then right before we were moving back to Florida I found out that she had moved back into town and was asking about
him! I literally felt physically ill when I heard. He said he had no interest in even talking to her, but I still couldn't help but worry.
I think it's human nature to feel jealous, and I will never understand the people that couldn't care less what their boyfriend is out doing and who they're with. I don't call him every 5 minutes but it's nice to know. The way I see it is, if you're jealous it means you actually care.
I actually posted a thread here a long time ago about
jealous and being irrational. I still haven't gotten over it but I think I'm getting better. I just tell myself, he's with me and he loves me and that's all there is to it. I always think therapy would probably really help me but I have some social anxiety problems that I haven't gotten over enough yet to actually make that step.
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